My fiance is a flirt and he does it in front of me.?

Question

I'm 35 weeks pregnant and my fiance has been flirting with this girl. That comes to our house. She is a gf of one of his friends that comes here. Now she is nice but he was talking to her on the phone before she go here and was like lets go out on a date blah blah and me and her bf were sitting right there. I know he was joking but it bothered me. Then when she go there he payed her more attention then me. He has not showed me really any attention in a while unless he wants s*x. He wont even hold me anymore. Its like I have to ask him to sit with me and he will only sit with me for a lil bit and then go back to the computer. what should I do? It makes me sad that he is going talk and flut with his friends girl right in front of us. He always next to her. I dunno. I talked to him about it. But i dont know if he go it

Answer 1

TAKE HIM TO COURT

Answer 2

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  Sit  him  down  and  talk  to  him  seriously  and  be  honest;  tell  him  what  you  feel  that  it  bothers  you  when  he  does  that and  it  hurts  you  when  he  ignores  you  and  not  pay  attention,...I  know    you  are   in  your  weakest  points  at  this  time  because  you  are  carrying  a  child  and  you  are  sensitive,.....   He  is  supposed  to  be  supporting  you  in  any  ways,  for  you   to   have  a  happy  pregnancy.I  was  the  same  way when  my -ex  was  pregnant and  realized  I  was  wrong  ,She  sat  me  down  in  a  nice  restaurant, look  me  in  the  eyes  and  spill  her  guts  out  and  my  heart  melted  and  full  of  GUILT...................Talk  in  a  very  rational  way.

Answer 3

Geeze...imagine what he does behind your back....

Answer 4

Give him an incentive. "If you flirt again I'll do ______ or you'll do ______" Tell him it's not acceptable and that you don't like it. Or you could give him a taste of his own medicine and flirt in front of him.

Answer 5

He has very poor judgement, and obviously is unaware that his behavior is hurtful and inappropriate.  And this is the stuff you witness--what is he doing when you aren't around?  You indicated that he is becoming distant.  If he cannot control himself, I would suggest that visits with these 'friends' be curtailed.

Sounds to me like you need to let him know now that if he cannot grow up, then you cannot raise his child and worry about him, too.  If he is this discourteous now, imagine how he will behave when the baby is here.  Let him know that you have the ability to do things on your own----all he has to do is provide child support for the next 18 years.

Maybe that'll slap him back to reality.

Answer 6

i dunno.. i mean if i was in your position i would talk to him about it again if it happens again. if he still doesnt get it then next time why not talk to his friend privately and ask him if he sees it as well or if maybe you are just being paranoid, all else fails call them out on it in front of eachother the next time u see it happening.  

i hope you are just being a little emotional right now due to the pregnancy but its still not right for you to have to feel this way. if he doesnt chance then maybe you should think about if he is the right guy for you. he could be showing his true colors now. leave before itll end up costing you lots more after the marriage.  good luck

Answer 7

Sorry, but he sounds like a P.O.S.

He would not be my friend for long...

Answer 8

Oh boy....and your pregnant by this dude....oh no. He is not joking with this chic. He is serious as a heart attack. If she will go, then it would be on and popping for him. He is not into you anymore. It could be for reasons that you have not disclosed but I will bet it has something to do with your ready made family. I know it takes two to make a baby but reality has not set in for him yet. He is not ready to settle down with you or a baby. I advise you to prepare your heart, mind, and finances for the worst. It is yet to come. Make sure that you are not solely dependent on this dude. Be ready to stand on your own when the s_it hits the fan. If he treats you like this now, it will get worse when you are tied down to a baby. Unfortunately it will be your burden to bear, not his.

Answer 9

I like to name my farts... Like Willis, Conrad or Jimmy.

It makes me feel strong...

Answer 10

I have been in few situations like this before! His lame actions are not okay! It just shows you how little  respects he has for you! I wouldn't talk to him about it anymore since you had the same conversation before- I would put him in his shoes! Flirt with his guy friends when they are over and see how he feels about it! Hopefully he learn his lesson! But if it doesn't bother him one bit nor change his lame acts then it tells you he doesn't love you as much as you think he does! I know two wrongs doesn't make things right, but sometimes people needs a reality check every now and then!

Answer 11

wow wat an a*****e. WHY DO U TOLERATE THIS BEHAVIOR?  

Answer 12

for one congrats. cuz ur about to have a baby do you want a boy or a girl and or do you know what you want and two flirting is ok but the way you said it it not ok does she flirt back with him maybe they want each other just flirt with her bf and see how they like it

Answer 13

I would tell him it makes you uncomfortable that he flirts like that with her even if he is joking and means nothing by it. Maybe ask his friend how he feels when he does it to his girlfriend. If it makes him uncomfortable as well then you could also tell your fiance that he is making his friend uncomfortable too. Ask him WHY he is flirting with her like that.

If he continues to do it, then obviously he is not concerned with how it's making you feel. It's not like it's something he HAS TO DO or has an obligation to flirt with her. He's chosing to flirt and if he continues after you explain to him how it's making you feel, then he's chosing to hurt you and put your relationship in jeopardy.