My fiance is bypolar and sometimes he saids that he dont want to see me. what should i do?

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relationships

Answer 1

Well if he was diagnosed as bi-polar he should be seeing a councilor and taking medication.

and not wanting to see you may not be the bipolar, he may just need space.

Talk to him when he's doing ok and ask waht he thinks.

Answer 2

My husband's Aunt is bi--polar, and although she is on meds which help to control, she is very difficult to live with and has not been the best mom.

Really really think about whether this is a life you want to choose.  You may love him, but in reality, love does NOT conquer all.

Answer 3

seek counseling and get meds

Answer 4

if you love him..stick with him...until hes on the right medication (that works for him) hes gonna b irritable and irrational...

bipolar is a difficult thing to live with but if you love someone youre gonna stick it out

Answer 5

If he has been diagnosed bi-polar by a doctor, he should have medications. If he takes the medications regularly, he should have no problems.BUT conditions change and increases/decreases in weight can change requirements.  If he doesn't follow doctor's orders and then uses his diagnosis as an excuse for bad behavior, dump him! He's an irresponsible loser. If he has self-diagnosed, or if one of his friends said "Oh, you're probably bipolar because of your mood swings", then STILL he is using these excuses as a right for bad behavior. If so, dump him. If he has truly been professionally diagnosed, is taking his meds regularly and responsibly and he still gets moody and doesn't want to see you, then he "just isn't into you " any more - or - he needs to see his doctor again for a revision of meds. If he won't go, dump him before he dumps you.

Answer 6

Bipolar people can be a BIG challenge to deal with. You either have to accept his mood changes and hasty words, or decide to move on.

I once had a bipolar friend and that relationship was exhausting. She eventually ended it and I couldn't have been more relieved.

Answer 7

this is a condition that he can't control but with medicine it will make things much easier for him... when he is going through one of his moods just give him his space.. you know that he is not trying to be mean on purpose.  

Answer 8

I'm going to assume that he's under a doctor's care for his bi-polar disorder.  He should be taking medications for it and he might even be in talk therapy.

What YOU can do is go to a therapist yourself.  You have to learn how to live with this bipolar man, and it isn't easy.  You have to be able to deal with his highs and his lows.  You have to understand what this is all about before you marry him and have children.

You do understand, I hope, that bipolar does NOT go away.  There is no cure.  There is no predicting his ups or his downs.  Some people can handle being married to someone who is mentally ill.  Many people cannot.  Find a good therapist or marriage counselor who can help you figure out whether you want the rest of your life to be like this.

Good luck to you.

Answer 9

Girl do Not marry him! If you can't deal with it now than it will only get worse when u get married!! Next time he says he doesn't want to c u, u should say "ok" get ur sh*t if yall live together n leave (if u have somewhere to go) n cut him out of ur life until u get over him and yall can become friends.

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 10

This is an awful illness and you will have problems with him your entire life!  Your children could also be born with it!  Do yourself a big favor and find someone else!  You will be very sorry you married him!

Answer 11

My ex-husband is a non medicated bipolar...it was terrible. He wouldn't get help so I went to counseling myself. It was explained to me though that even if he got on meds, it would only smooth out the very highs and the very lows. It would not change his personality. I stuck it out for 18 years-it made me a wreck emotionally and physically. That was 10 years ago and he still hasn't changed. He is on his 3rd marriage and all wives or girlfriends thought they could change him. They always call me and want to ***** about it. (i don't respond)

Do not marry him!!! Tell him YOU don't want to see him.  

Answer 12

One of two things;

1) You leave him so you can peruse a normal less stressful relationship   or

2) Tell him he has to seek counseling and if found he is bipolar than seek treatment.

It's not going to get better unless he is made to answer for his actions.

Answer 13

Bipolar people go from one extreme to the next. If you are going to marry someone with this condition, you better just be ready for the behavior issues. I have known quite a few people with this condition and they all seem to struggle with normal life. They also seem to have big issues in their relationships because it is just hard dealing with the condition. You have to decide to love them as is or not be involved.

Answer 14

RUN!!!!

wait, no...stick around and make sure he gets and TAKES his meds.  

Answer 15

Bipolar is a very serious disorder. Does he have Bipolar I or Bipolar II?

People who suffer from bipolar go through manic stages and depressive stages - their personalities can change drastically. My friends mother was bipolar. She said when her mother was in one of her manic stages she barely recognized her - and her mother didn't care about anything in a manic state; she thought she could do anything.

I suggest counseling for the both of you. There are steps that he has to take to get better - but you need to also learn some skills as to how to cope with him. It's a big challenge.

When he says stuff like that to you I honestly doubt that he actually means any of it.

You might want to do some more research on this disease so you can have a clear idea of what you are getting yourself into.  

Answer 16

Don't marry him!

Do you want your children to be like him?

Just think about it.

Answer 17

Because they have rapidly changing moods, they can get prescribed anti-depressant pills.

Answer 18

it's because he's bi-polar! it has nothing to do with you. I have PMDD, which for one week can be just like bi-polar disorder. My husband just has realized not to take anything mean that I say to heart for that one week.

It has nothing to do with you. Trust me... It's hard, but I'm sure he really does love you.

Answer 19

I’m sorry your fiancé has a chronic illness like bi-polar syndrome.

OK it’s incurable but can be managed. The problem is that BPP tend to forget they have an illness that needs constant management – so they sometimes think, “I’m fine. I can stop taking my meds.” And then the roller coaster ride begins.

And even when closely managed, any time they have to change medications (and some of the medications BPP take are really hard on the body) they can relapse – and bam, roller coaster again.

Sadly, the results are a lot of stress, heartache and pain for not only the BPP, but for everyone associated with them.

I think this is what’s happening with your fiancé. He’s feeling fine, not managing his illness as he should – and is starting on the roller coaster ride.

Honey, I know you love him with all your heart; but in light of this, you really need to rethink the relationship. It will not get better. It will always be a house filled with all kinds of drama.

Answer 20

Unless he's willing to stay on meds to control the bipolar, I'd say give him the ring back and move on.  It's h**l living with a non-medicated  bipolar person.  

Answer 21

If he is not on any medication at this time, then you need to leave this relationship.  If you really care about him, then get him into a doctor to get a prescription for the medicine that will level out his condition and make it bearable for you and others to be around him.  Good luck.  

Answer 22

if he's bi-polar, he gets mad easy. Just don't make him mad, remind him to take his medicine. and see how that goes?  Just wondering, did you say anything or do anything to him that would cause him to say that?