My fiance let my son who is going into 6th grade watch...?

Question

A George Carlin tribute special. I want too happy since he's only 11, but my fiance said he thinks he is mature enough not to repeat the language and the other stuff was over his head. Am I being to over protective? I just think George Carlin is a bit much for any 11 year old no matter how mature.

Answer 1

Some kids will curse and others won't. my friend has three kids and not a single one of them curses. she lets them watch movies with curse words in them and they still don't say it. sometimes they'll ask what it means but they'll spell out the word when they want to know. if your 11 year old knows not to say it i can't see the harm. you trust your fiance to watch him so you should be able to trust your fiance's judgement. if you hear him saying the words he learned from the show then you know it wasn't a good decision and then you need to have a talk with your fiance and put your foot down.

BTW they hear worse than that at school and if kids their age are saying curse words thats when they think its ok to repeat it.

Answer 2

No, you're not being overprotective. You're being a good mom who's using your best judgement. My son is 14 and I still preview certain movies before I let him watch them. I remember when he was 12 and we went to see the movie Click with Adam Sandler. I figured since it was Adam Sandler and the movie was PG-13, it would be okay. If I had known how often the F-word would have been used throughout the movie, I would not have allowed him to see it.

You are the only person who can determine whether or not your son is mature enough to see or hear that type of language on tv.

Answer 3

You are right, that is your child and he should respect YOUR wishes. Honestly, I would sit down and talk with him about his parenting ideas versus yours before the tow of you are married. Tell him children learn what they see. Garbage in: garbage out!

Answer 4

my daughter,at age 11,would have been fine with it,and understanding it....when my son was 11,he wasnt as mature...it really depends on you knowing how mature your child is...

Good luck

Answer 5

I was using that kind of language at 11. I knew not to use it around certain people.

Answer 6

I agree.

Answer 7

I love the comedy of George Carlin! He simply stated things as they are. As for the content being inappropriate for your son, I completely agree. George Carlin's HBO tributes were either PG-13 or R, I can't remember though I watched a lot of it. No matter what, he's too young to be watching it due to the language and kids do understand way more than adults give them credit for sometimes, so I wouldn't agree that the other stuff was over his head either.

You are right though, stand your ground!

Answer 8

get some counseling before you consider marriage cuz this is just a symptom of a larger problem.  don't put the kid in the middle cuz he deserves better.  if you feel you can't trust the fiance's judgement, keep him away from your kid.

Answer 9

I have a question for you. Are you going to continue to let your fiance do things that you would not allow? It will not change after you get married.

You need to sit down with your fiance and have a talk to him about agreed values. There is still time to turn this around if he will listen to you and discuss. But if he refuses to listen and negotiate now, guess what is going to happen after you marry him?

You should be able to agree upon certain standards and values with regards to raising your children. He can either help and support you or he should be looking for another person to marry.

Don't compromise your standards because of this man. Instead negotiate with him so the two of you can both agree and your child can remain happy, knowing that you two are united in your parenting.

Answer 10

I would agree with you. While George Carlin is tame compared to other comedians, his language still wouldn't be approrpriate to an 11 year old imo

Answer 11

Who is your child's parent YOU or your Fiance'?  Your fiance has no right making those kind of decisions for your chld.

Answer 12

I work with children your son's age and you would be surprised at what these kids know. Chances are your son has heard/said most of what was on the tribute.

I'm assuming it was the SNL tribute, if so the language wasn't too bad, I wouldn't worry about it.

If it was on cable (HBO et.al), it may have been a bit much.

Answer 13

IM 10 AND I WAtch family guy south park and my dad lets me watch movies with p**n in them

Answer 14

I would have no problem letting my kids watch a George Carlin tribute at the age of 11. I don't know if you're familiar with any of his material but a lot of what he says makes you think. It might actually do your son some good to get a different perspective on things at that age. I'm almost finished with Carlin's book, "Napalm and Silly Putty" and I strongly recommend it. Of course there's the issue of strong language but as long as he knows that it's inappropriate to repeat those words then I'd say there's no harm done.   :)

Answer 15

Ah, my brother is 11, too.  My dad lets him watch a lot of things, like South Park and comedians like George Carlin.

The thing is, he is very composed around adults and strangers.  He knows how to act politely when needed.  But, around me (sister) or friends, he does use "language" a lot and talks about innappropriate stuff.  My parent don't know, though, because they aren't with him all the time, so they really don't know how he acts all the time.

So, I think he will repeat language and other things, but maybe not around you.  I don't think you're being over protective (which is saying a lot coming from a 14 yr old =] ), just don't take it too far.

Answer 16

Your finace shows some immaturity by thinking its appropriate language and content for an 11 year old.  Yes, 11 year olds know more today, but more frequently than not, its more than they should have.  No, you're not overprotective.

Answer 17

I'm with you on this...hey George Carlin is a bit much for ME!!! Much less an 11 year old!

Answer 18

He shouldn't be watching that! Talk to your fiance about it!