My fiance thinks i am cheating all the time?

Question

he admits he has there unrational thoughts and just gets so angry and it is like he has two different personalities. One minute he is fine then the next he is angry. Any help?

Answer 1

Your fiance has some issues, no doubt about that. Keep in mind that this is a part of his character that most likely wont change, so if you do marry him this will be something that can drain you of happiness. I'm not sure if he has been cheated on before you, or has cheated on you? Whatever the case theirs no excuse for this behavior, & it's no way to begin a marriage. You might want to take some time & really take a long hard look at the person with whom you may be spending the rest of your life with prior to making the commitment of marriage, just a thought?

Answer 2

ahahah My fiance is crazy like that too.. he will call me and be like your on the other line huh? And I will think that he is crazy cause he always thinks that!! ahah!! No worries.. Remind them that you love them everyday!

Answer 3

I think what needs to be looked at is has he always done this or did it start from a certain time or from a certain thing if that is the case it will die down but if he did it from day one then that is just the way he is.

Answer 4

Hi there i think this is human nature sumtimes girls are very pocessisive and sumtime boys are and u know what this is basic human nature if he is like that just try to ensure him that u luv her alot and there is no one in ur life and he is world to u ...once he undrstnds that he wud never react in that manner u know men like maturity even if they r not mature enuf what i feel is when ever he reacts this way just sit besides him with ur head on his chest and tell him that he is the only one in ur life dats it ....all the best !!

Answer 5

he sounds crazy and you never know whats gon happen next.see a psyhciatrist

Answer 6

Wow, and i thought i was the only one that has been dealing with this.  i tell my fiance that he has some fu*ked up mood swings or something cause one minute he is fine and the next he is angry and fflippingout.  What i did was sit and talk to him and it worked a lot i told him how i felt and how he makes me feel when he gets in those moods.  hes been doing a lot better after we had that talk (he was just so stressed out between the bills, us saving to buy our house, the wedding and our three kids.) we have are hands full but i told him it was not an eexcuseto get that angry oh yea he is also in anger mangment classes now (he is almost done) And now he is like the man i first met you know the one i fell in love with.

Answer 7

He should really consider talking to someone about this problem. It most likely is a fear from his past and can't let it go in his sub-conscience. My boyfriend gets like that sometimes because it's happened to him. I just laugh and tell him that he doesn't have to worry about that anymore, that he's safe with me. He doesn't get angry about it, just a little weary. Having great anger over that can really be a bad thing. Suggest help from a professional. It's not a bad thing and it doesn't mean he's crazy. Everyone has issues and no one is perfect. Good luck!  

Answer 8

Don't marry his crazy @ss!

He's probably freaking out because HE'S cheating

Answer 9

I agree with Huckleberry Jack!

Answer 10

It isn't normal / healthy behavior and you should think about the consequences of marrying him.  The worst case isn't that he is "cheating", though it is common for the guilty party to accuse their spouse / loved one cheating.  The worst case is that this develops into abuse (physical, mental, emotional) and a controlling behavior.  It isn't unheard of for men to be able to "hide" the worst side of themselves until they think they have you (ie marriage).      

Answer 11

Yes I have advice, don't marry him.

This problem will plague you if you stay with him, if he doesnt trust you why would you even want to be with him? And nobody likes to be around a person who gets easily angered? There's no security in a relationship like that. You'll regret it.  

Answer 12

This is likely because he is cheating...all the time.

Answer 13

my advice is that unless you want to deal with this everyday of the rest of your life dont marry him!! its probably going to get worse, my husband is exactly like that, and it hurts me so bad that he would think like that.  

Answer 14

And you are still with him?

Sigh, some people will never learn.

Answer 15

Sweetheart, I just found out that my husband who "started" doing the same thing was himself cheating. I found out by going through cell records and credit card statements...I want to tell you what to do, but the truth is, that if you didnt' think something was really wrong, you wouldn't be on a blog. i want you to think about something...my relationship was really good when i was dating, but he did have what you are talking about. We got married, bought the big beautiful house, things were good. we had our fights, but you know, nothing we couldn't deal with. THEN the baby came, and that was it. Day by day the put downs started to come in little forms, jokes, etc. breaking me down...then the isolation from friend and family, then the temper, then the cheating....i'm in such a  state of confusion it isn't even funny. I feel i read this blog for a reason, i feel that you are better than that, and i want you to know that even though i would NEVER marry or be with someone else, that is how genuine my love was, and how blinded i was, what is going to happen when he unleashes this temper on you infront of your kids? think about this: temper is not love. Temper doesn't show commitment. it only makes you feel bad about who you are...and you are a beautiful woman, who wants a peaceful house with kids that are thriving....and in the back of your mind think: is there abusive patterns with his parents? Does his mother get treated like this? Does he make you feel good? does he make you feel special ALL THE TIME? Does he OVERREACT to little things? well, wait until you have kids and there throwing cereal, banging the walls with there little toys, taking all the attention off of him,  throwing temper tantums and then yes, ultimately developing this "temper  " that they are seeing....PLEASE go to see a councilor before you walkdown the isle w/ this man....its REALLY hard to walk away once your in it.

Answer 16

I tell everyone what a person do before marriage will only get 10x worse after marriage... good luck with him!!!!

Answer 17

Please think very carefully before walking down the aisle with this man. HE WILL NOT CHANGE. Likely, the problem would only get worse after marriage. He needs to deal with these insecurities.

Also, it has been my experience that a person who is constantly accusing you of cheating, is in fact the cheater.