My fiance wants to adopt my baby ASAP?

Question

I am currently pregnant, due early April. My fiance (not biological father) and I will be married in August. He would like to adopt her as soon as he can, but we are confused about the steps. Does anyone know the adoption process and what we need from the bio-dad? I recently wrote the bio-dad asking his opinion on whether I should pursue child support or if he would release his parental rights...before he answers I'd like to be armed with some info because honestly I don't know how to go about either.

Answer 1

If you marry the fiance before the baby arrives, by law, your husband IS the legal father. No adoption is necessary.  

Consider also that your fiance may lose the glow of raising someone else's child. That is why most judges won't approve a stepparent adoption until you've been married a year.  Think about it.  You only split from the other guy a few months ago.

Answer 2

you got to see what the bio father is doing before you do anything or he sign off his rights if he keeps the right then you got to file for child support

Answer 3

Your fiance is not your babies biological father, do not pretend that he is.  He can still help you raise your baby and love it like his own without adopting.  Your child has a right to know it's true history, and it's biological father.  Do not close the door on the biological father.  It's not fair to the child.  Maybe someday, when the child is old enough to truly understand what adoption means they will chose to make it "official".  Until then, do not lie to them, tell them the truth, let them know their own history.

Answer 4

why not if you are going to be married he is going to ask who his real dad is but then atleast he will have a dad then not having one :)

Answer 5

you got some serious issues with adoption and your fiance, there are legal issue and you need to address them in court

Answer 6

Just get married before the baby is born and most of the time your husband is the legal father. The biological father would have to challenge this in court (as with Anna Nicole Smith's baby) and prove that he's the dad, but it doesn't sound like he's all that motivated. I think that you should be honest with your child about all this but if your fiance is going to raise the baby as his own it makes sense to avoid the adoption cost and hassle if you can.

Answer 7

It depends on how your relationship is with the bio dad if you feel that you are going to have to chase him down for child support or visits then it's not worth it. I know that in most states whoever signs the birth certificate as the father is recognized as the legal father. If the birth father wants to fight it then he can and DNA tests have to be done and court dates which is probably something he doesn't want to deal with. If it were me having a chance to do it over again with my daughter's birth father, I would never have persued him. I would have just done it all by myself instead of forcing him to be a dad.

Answer 8

If you are married when the baby is born the husband is presumed by law to be the father.

No adoption is necessary.

You should check with a lawyer in your state, but that's the way most of the laws run.

Answer 9

honestly, the easiest way would be to have him sign the birth certificate as he was the bio father. The end result will be the same and it would be the simplest, fastest. Adoption is a long, involved process, even for step parent adoption.

Answer 10

Is the biological father not going to be in the picture at all?  Otherwise I'm not sure the whole adoption idea is a good one.  The child has a right to know her biological father as her "real" father.  Just because you are getting married does not mean your husband needs to adopt your baby.