My fiance wants to put my 4 month on solids!???!?

Question

This keeps being an argument. I keep telling him that it is way too soon to put our 4 month old son on freakin food! He is like we will just go to the store get one jar and see if he likes it. When I dissagree with him, we start arguing. He doesn't think I know what I am talking about BUT I DO! Gosh it's really frustrating me and I don't know how to handle this. We are going today to the pediatrician for the 4 months shots and I am going to get him to say something about it. Hopefully this will make him shut up about it. Has anyone else had this problem or what do you think I should do? Seems like he wants to force everything far too soon. And its driving me crazy! I have a motherly instinct..I will know when the time is right. Not only that I have been around babies my entire life and have a 6 year old godson who I watched all the time. Anyway..could just use some advice on this. When he wants to start stuff early what should I do to avoid an argument...

Answer 1

4 months isn't to soon.. give him stage 1

Answer 2

in the uk it is advised that babies are fed on milk only (formula or breast) for 6 months.

However - I have noticed that the jars of puree and baby rice/cereal says 4 month + on the packet.

I think each baby is individual and their needs can vary hugely - it would be best to speak to the pediatrician about the reasons behind not introducing solids sooner than 6 months.

From my own research I understand early weening may lead to digestive disorders, food intolerences and an increased likelyhood of obesity in later life.

A baby's stomach is the size of it's fist - i was advised this by my doc.

Answer 3

Please dont put any rice cereal in a bottle, just spoon feed it to him, its not good at all to put it in the bottle. Talk to the doctor about solid foods, you should always tell your doctor when you think about starting solid foods, and they will let you know what you should and should not do.

Answer 4

4 month is too early better to wait till 6 months

Answer 5

http://www.llli.org/FAQ/solids.html

http://www.babycenter.com/0_introducing-...

let him looks at these and tell him the World health organization and The American Academy of Pedicatrics doesn't reccomedn until 6 months

let him know the increased risks for starting early like diabetes, obesity and other things

Answer 6

You know your babies cues.  My doctor told me at my 4 mon check up i could start soilds anytime, and the reason they are saying to start later was due mostly to allergic reactions the food was causing. He also told me that by 6 mons or a little there after they should have a "good grasp" on taking food from a spoon.  Most of the time you actually only get a few bits in them anyway when you start, they are getting use to it. you should start with cereal- mixed with some fruit or veggie first and then expand.  A lot of people are waiting longer which is great and okay.  You know your babies cues and everyone starts at a different time.  Don't listen to people who say you should or shouldn't do something. ( as long as what you are doing is not harming your child.)  Good luck, and before your fiance knows it he's going to be washing up a kid who has spaghetti all over his face and scrubbing the floor under their high chair.  He might not be so eager then! lol

Answer 7

You need to give your fiance some better reasons than "mother's instincts".  Have you done research that shows that it is too soon to introduce solids, or that there is a benefit to waiting?  Go into the argument armed with these facts, and you will be much more convincing than saying "I just know!"

I introduced my son to solids around 4 months, and finally was able to get some sleep!

Answer 8

My husband and I went through this also..I finally gave in...he agreed he would stop trying to feed our son formula(I was breast feeding) if I agreed that at 4 months he could feed Ian a jar of apple sauce...you've got to choose your fights. We went to our son's 4 month appointment and the pedi said we could start him on solids if we wanted to or we could wait.

Answer 9

4 months is not too early to start feeding solids.start with rice cereal mixed with formula. if baby doesn't like it wait and try again at another time. when you do start feeding keep a regular schedule like breakfast lunch and dinner.

i will add that my granddaughter did not want to eat until recently and she's nearly 8 months old. every baby is different.

and most important-don't argue with you fiance in front of the baby!

Answer 10

4 months old is much too young for solids.  You're the mother and the primary caregiver. Stand your ground.

Answer 11

If the baby is hungry a lot, like the formula is not lasting very long, then maybe it is time to try foods. Make sure you try a veggie first and not fruit bc it is sweet. A baby does not have a "sweet tooth" until you give it to them, so start with veggies first. Good luck!

Answer 12

Have this conversation with your pediatrician first.

Then bring your other half to one of his doctor appointments & repeat the convo for his benefit.

He can argue until he's blue in the face, but once given a doctor's opinion he should simmer down some