My fiancee and I are both 24 and have been with each other since we were 18. So why...?

Question

Why is it that after we get engaged (friday night) that his three brothers and some of his friends are telling him that he needs to "explore" before he decides to marry? These are the same guys whos been saying that we were going to get married since we started dating! His brothers have been calling me sis for the longest time!

We have not broken up once in the six years that we have been together. I dont get it. Has anyone else had this issue?

Answer 1

Explore what?  Is he an explorer or something like that? They are jealous, don't let it  get to you. You guys seems to be ready for the commitment.Tell them to shut up and mind their own business.Blessing to you both and good luck when planning your wedding.

Answer 2

Because commitment freaks guys out.  Even when it's not their own!

If your fiance doesn't take those comments to heart, neither should you.  Though if he has any doubts in his mind, now is the time to question it.

Congratulations on your engagement!

Answer 3

I think its because you need to experience other people before you can be so sure that you have found the right one. His brothers are just being losers, but it could have some seriousness behind it. Hopefully your fiance doesn"t feel pressured into the marriage cuz that leaves room for disaster. Being that you both got together so young and are still quite young and have only known each other, don't you feel like there are some experiences that you haven't had? If you both are happy then good luck and tell his brothers to stop being jerks about it. I hope everything is beautiful.

Answer 4

I had this issue with my fiance's friends after we moved in together.  (just happened to be the same time both of those losers got their butts dumped).  All of a sudden he would come home from a night out questioning if he should be with me.  It was the only time he ever did.  We talked about it (I never told him not to see them) but he decided not to have them around.  He sees them once in a while now and they still push him to leave me because he needs to be single (btw he's 27. I think it's okay for him to settled down now. lol)  His friends are the same age, one is 30 and are pretty much alcoholics who can't get laid.  So I think it's just jealousy mixed with a little bit of fear of losing their drinking buddy.

It was funny how me and his friends got along fine until they lost their girls.  Then they hated me.  First cause I didn't talk enough, then I talked too much, then I was ALWAYS around (kind of hard not to be when they are partying in my living room all night long) lol.

Try and ignore it, maybe talk to him and let him know how you feel (nicely) and maybe he can tell them to stop.  I don't think it's really a  MAJOR issue unless he starts listening to them.

Good luck hun!

Answer 5

tell them to STFU, and good for you.  my husband was the first guy i dated, and my mom made the mistake of telling my i was rushing into things (23 when we started dating, 27 when married).  i just asked her if she wanted me to date guys who were after one thing only, as opposed to my husband, who respects the h**l out of me?  she changed her opinion.

Answer 6

If you've been together for six years, it sounds like you know each other pretty well; these days a lot of marriages don't last that long. Some guys like to beat their chests and talk about their conquests, but your guy sounds like he might be a bit more mature than that.

Just don't take each other for granted and keep doing new things with each other. You don't have to have had a string of partners to be able to appreciate what you have. Congratulations to you both.

Answer 7

Do not worry be happy everything will be alright, it is my experience

Answer 8

They're just guys being guys and don't want their friend to settle down unless he's sure, since you've been together for 6 years and he hasn't experienced many (if any) other women to make sure you are in fact the right one.

Answer 9

probably because ya'll have been together the whole time that most guys "sow their wild oats"

it's the whole test drive theory. you don't buy the first car you like, you have to test drive a few so that you have more options

Answer 10

First off, don't let the 'friends' and the idiotic brothers get to you-- it is your time to celebrate, and now enjoy calling your boyfriend, your fiance.  Guys are goofballs when it comes to one of the pack breaking off and becoming an individual.  I dated my husband from when he was 19-- we just got married in May, and he is now 25.  He didn't get pressure like that, but his other friends would definitely try to get him to go out and do things as they did.  He didn't buy it.  Seriously just enjoy calling everyone and saying you got engaged.  Show the ring off.  Love it.  If he loves you, he will see how ridiculous those other guy's opinions are.

Answer 11

Because men are jerks with only one thing on their minds. If your fiance has a good head on his shoulders he will make his OWN Decision.  

Answer 12

they are probably concerned because you two have never been wth anyone else...some people feel like you need to have been through some realtionships before you can really know what you want out of one or what's gonna make you happy...   they don't have anyting against you they just want to make sure it will be the best thing for both of you.  that you guys have really seen the world (so to speak) before you settle down with one another...   they're trying to prevent a divorce.

Answer 13

your fiance is wanting to sleep with other women, he has been with u for so long when he should of been traveling around the world with his friends picking up hot random girls and partying. now u want marriage he is scared he has missed out on the best part of his life - and to be honest it sounds like he has. u should let him experiment with other girls before u marry him for life!

Answer 14

oh yeah. when you slap a ring on people flip cuz its liek WHOA!! what you doing your to younge things liek this. Dont pay attention they will get over it. family worries.