My fiancee and I keep arguing over the same thing!! i don't know what else to do. plz help!?

Question

He just got a new job as an assistant manager, where the store manager is training to become district manager. She wants him to act like this store is the only thing in his life!!! (thats what it feels like) He requested our 1 yr anniversary off a month in advanced eventhough her policy is only 2 weeks in advanced and he still had to work. she said it was a holiday weekend (4th of july) and couldn't give him the day off so he just got the night off. he was scheduled to leave at 7. She calls him at whatever time of night to talk about numbers and expects him to come in early or on days off for "meetings". (to me its jusy an extra shift). Apparently her husband complains to her as well but shes just focused on getting this promotion (which means my fiancee will be promoted to store manager) but i finally convinced him to finish getting his degree but she says she's not going to give him a set schedule for him to work around. he needs to be available whenever hes needed. I've tried to be supportive and not opinionated about it because it always leads to an argument. She doesn't even know that i can't stand her because i avoid her at all costs. we were both invited to her birthday party and he wanted to go i really didn't want to but was willing to go for him but luckily had to work then he said i could've gotten my shift covered but why would i go out of my way for something i didn't want to do? we always drop the arguents but something new always comes up again. my fiancee and i rarely to ever have fights over anything else. i know theonly option i have is to put up with this but its getting into our relationship.

Answer 1

I'm not really understanding why you're so involved.  If he wants his degree he'll get it.  You're not his mother.  My boss was batshit crazy & wouldn't let me leave sometimes.  My husband just hugged me & said he was sorry I had to put up with it.  He certainly didn't start arguments with me about it.  If we had dinner plans & crazy boss lady ruined them then OH WELL.  We ate in.  You just don't sound very supportive.  He's working his butt off & you're complaining.

Answer 2

Sounds like the store manager is trying to create problems between you two, maybe she is liking him more than in a professional manner.

He there is too much trouble with this job, maybe he should request a new store to work at all together. Good Luck.  

Answer 3

I THINK SHE WANTS SOME OF YOUR MAN- LOL

Answer 4

if he's in retail he will never ever get holiday weekends off until he's the big boss.  if he's an asst manager, that's what managers do, they are pretty much on call day/night.  and the reason why he wants you to go to his company functions is to show a united front.  what could he say if you didn't go?  anytime "manager" comes into play, bam you are on salary, so there goes any over time pay, and then you have to play the "political" game.  

pick your battles

Answer 5

if your fiance's boss was a guy, i dont think you would have as much of a problem.  to me, you are jealous instead of being supportive and encouraging.  stiff upper lip girl!

Answer 6

Retail sucks. Listen, my husband has to be out of town for 30 days at a time. When he comes home, it's only for 14. I get lonely, I get tired of doing everything myself, but I deal with it. Why? Because he likes his job, and makes good money. He's happy with his career. I'm happy for him. My point is this, try whining less and being more supportive. At least he comes home everyday.  

Answer 7

I wouldn't really like it either especially if she calls at all hours.  Hopefully she will soon get a promotion and be out of that store and you will not have to worry about it.  Even supervisors/managers need vacation days and your anniversary should have been a day that he was able to take off.  Also does he get well compensated for his extra hours?  If he didn't I would be even more upset.  She sounds like a terrible boss even with retail you should be able to have some type of schedule.  My sister is the manager at a retail store and she is always able to adjust her schedule for her college classes(she just goes part time though)

Just try not to let it get to you to much.  Maybe have your phones shut off after 10pm.  On some of his days off make plans to go somewhere or plans with friends(also only have a time when his phone should be shut off)  He should tell his boss the times that she will be able to contact him on days off etc (like from 11am to 7pm) or something.  She should not rely on your husband to get her promotion which it seems like she is doing.

Answer 8

most retail jobs are dead end c**p...........

help him look for another job.........

his family needs to come first within reason