My fiancee passed away in 2004?

Question

my fiancee died in 2004 of a misdiagnosed double pneumonia. his name was burdett but we called him burd.. i was thinking of getting a tattoo of a simple bird tattoo with " burd " on top of the bird and the date he was born and the date he passed on the bottom.. but i dont know if i want that.. i am new to tattooing but have two of them.. i just want to see more suggestins.. if you know of anything let me know at [e-mail].. thanks..

Answer 1

if getting a tattoo rings true for you - i see it as a marvelous way to celebrate him & your relationship.

i agree with some of the others that you you must be 100% sure that no matter where you are or who you are with you will still adore it.

i personally think tattoos are about the person (you) - not a showy display for others, so allow that to guide your choice.

Answer 2

I have 5 tattoos myself so I can assure you that if you arent 100% sure of what you want then dont get anything yet.  just because you called him Burd doesn't mean you need to get a bird tattoo.  you could get anything that reminds you of him or something he really loved.  Or you could get a bird tattoo and leave out the name burd as you know that the bird really represents.  The only thing that worries me is getting a name tattooed on you.  Is it something you will be comfortable having if you start dating again and get married again?  I knwo you will always love him, but do you want his name?  I'm not trying to talk you out of it, but just make sure its what you really want.  I have my husbands name on me, but I am fine with it.  we already had a split and I was dating someone else and was fine with his name being on me.  We have since gotten back together, but just make sure its what you really want.  so sorry for your loss though.  I couldnt imagine the hurt you much have gone through.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.  I don't have any tattoos and have never even considered having one, although I do think the sentiment you are talking about is nice.  Perhaps to make it a little less calendar like you may want to just have the bird with Burd on top of it and not have the dates on there.  I think a simple bird would be nice too - it's not supposed to be about explaining your history with your fiance, but a tribute in the most permanent form.  

Again, sorry about Burd.