My fiancee wants to make friends of the opposite s*x?

Question

okay he is the type who likes what hes used to. so he suggested being friends with an ex..(who he cheated on me with 2 years ago and after that she spent a year trying to get back with him him going back and forth not knowing what he wanted) im still not really over it, but i dont badger him to make it up. he did what he could the rest is up to me. but it doesnt help he wants to be friends wit her again he says that its because he doesnt want to go thru the whole making friends and trusting the process again. cause she already knows everything about him. and we both dropped bascially all of our friends towards the middle. i dont mind him making female friends..(though he does have a bit of a flirting/complimenting issue) we set our guidelines. but he wants to be friends with her.and he says nothing would happen. i told him no. and he agreed ( but put up a little fight) am i wrong.. how should i feel how would you feel? the last time i agreed to him hanging out with an ex i got cheated on(different girl..he cheated twice in total) last time i agreed to him talking to her..he made a perverted joke that only someone who had s*x with him would know am i hallucinating?

Answer 1

You're fooling yourself if you think this is okay.  Put your foot down and say no.  There is too much history there with her and none of it is good for you.  Sounds to me like your husband wants his cake and ice cream as well.  Go ahead and let your feelings be a doormat for this jerk, but I wouldn't trust him.  You say that you lost most of your close friends along the way: who's idea was that? His or yours?  He's controlling you.  Make him stop.  Get on with your life.  What's the point of having a monogamous relationship if there isn't 100% trust?  You're left wandering and he's having all the fun.  Not!  Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

THE ALARM BELLS ARE RINGING IN MY EARS SO LOUD RIGHT NOW! Ok to cut a long long way of explaining all this short. U NEED TO GET RID OF HIM NOW. he is a jerk and will never change, he is manipulative and knows he has endless control over you. infact this guy probably doesnt even know the difference between a lie and the truth. he will hurt u over and over and somehow turn it around to make u feel it was all ur fault. he will and obviously has already beaten u down emotionally and u feel u cant do and dont deserve better. BUT U DO. His EX CAN HAVE HIM.. and even then he will call u and tell u he made a mistake and he loves u, put her down to you to make u feel "special" he will come back and foreward back and foreward. these people are dangerous. THEY WANT CONTROL. and its amazing what can happen when they lose control. their true colours Shine. P.S he already has u believing it is infact the ex that is the sneaky one (that u cant trust and hate) and believe me he has made u out to be just that to her.  please please get away from him.  

Answer 3

So dump him.  Are you going to let this guy play you like that?  You sound like another spoiled drama queen who's life has to be a soap opera.