My fiancé told me a lot of stuff about his ex-girlfriend and I didn’t feel fine about what he said, anyone tha

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Love my fiancé a lot and I know he loves me too; he’s definitely he’s the love of my life, but the other day he stated talking about his ex girlfriend and he didn’t stop, I was giving him hints letting him that I wanted him to stop, but he didn’t and he crossed the line and spoke more than enough. He was telling me bad stuff about but some good stuff as well, and made it seem like she was a REALLY important in his life that I felt like a replacement since she was the one that left him, he even told me that his world fell when that happened. I also had a long past relationship but I I’ve never told him anything about him and that he broke my heart in pieces when he left me. I need help to surpass the existence of a past and long relationship, anyone in the same situation please help!!! I don’t feel ok and we’re getting married in 3 ½ months.

HHEELLPP,,,maybe I’m a little jealous

Answer 1

do u no wat i think will help u move on here??

is if u both sit down an do exactly wat ur bf did

get him to keep telling u about his ex an wat happend an how he felt/feels an then u do the exact same. then u tell him

maybe then he will understand how u felt wen he kept talking bout his ex. dont forget tho if u decide to take my advice to tell him how happy u are with him now an how he has helped u realise that u are better off without ur ex an how he is the guy for u etc

hopefully he will do the same to u. then u will be open with each other an u can help each other move past ur exes an u wont have anything u have to push deep down inside u an hold back

try it?

i hope it helps

good luck

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear this.

Maybe you guys need more time?..

I think you need to truly sit down and discuss the issue with him and let him know how you feel,

from his reaction, you'll know if it's sincere or not, and ou'll either stay by his side and realize it wasn't intentional or there is something else deeper that needs to come out and get resolved.

Good luck..

Answer 3

yeah you're a little jealous.  it's ok.

Do you believe that your fiance loves you and wants to be with you?  Don't think only about what he said the other night.  Think about all of his behavior towards you for the entire time you've known him.  If you believe that behavior shows he loves you and wants to be with you then ignore the ex gf thing and if it happens in the future just TELL him to stop--don't drop hints--he was too wrapped up in his story to see how it was affecting you.

if you believe that his past behavior shows that you are his consolation prize then postpone the wedding until you have clarity one way or the other.

If you are really unsure and it is still bothering you then TELL HIM.  You're going to marry this man in 3 months--if you can't tell him about something that is upsetting you then you shouldn't be marrying him.  

FWIW:  apparently he feels he can tell you ANYTHING, even his feelings about the ex--both good and bad.  That's a very good sign.  Return the favor and be up front and honest with him  (no that doesn't mean you talk about your ex if you don't want.  That means tell him he upset you going on and on about his ex.)