My first grade boy has a rotten bully in his class who is now bothering my son.?

Question

It is the typical name calling, pushing and bothering type stuff. This bully has done this to a bunch of other boys and now it seems to be my son's turn. How do I tell him to deal with this? My son is a tall strong kid but has more of a mellow personality and doesn't always know how to handle this stuff. Any advice will be appreciated.

Answer 1

You don't tell him to deal with it, go and talk to his teacher and school principle, let them know what is going to so they can keep an eye on your son and this bully, most schools have a no bullying policy, your son shouldn't have to deal with other kids picking on him, Good Luck

Answer 2

Tell him not to back down from the loser.

Kick his butt when he trys to bully him, or go tell the teacher if that will have any impact.... Best thing to do is have your son stand up for himself... Tell him to be the toughest he can be, it will give him more confidence and self esteem after the fact.

Good Luck and Best Wishes.

Answer 3

Ok this is a tough question tell it to the school principle that will work my bully who is tall acciedently punched me but he was trying to punch my friend the teacher saw me crying and asked me what happend i told her the truth the principle and my adviser got mad at the one who accidently punched me so ell the principle or  when u see his parents tell them the truth in a MEAN way!!!!!!!

(ur takin advice from a Philipine girl)

Answer 4

First off, rare is the first grader who's really a "rotten bully."  They're just little kids, too, and it can help to see them just as a kid who's making mistakes and struggling with proper behavior ... and it can help for your son to see them that way, too.  Today's misbehaving first grader may well be a charming second grader, since kids change so much at that age and tend to go quickly through phases.

That doesn't mean they're not bothering your son.  I would let the teacher know what's going on so they could keep an eye on it, and I would teach my son to firmly tell a kid to stop when they're bothering him, and if that doesn't work to walk away and ignore annoying behavior (name calling/ bothering) and to let a teacher know if the behavior is more than annoying (pushing, hitting, taking his stuff, etc.).  At my kids' school, the kids are told to distinguish annoying behavior (which you can just ignore) from dangerous and destructive behavior (for which you should get an adult if using your words doesn't resolve it.).

Answer 5

You need to have a sit down with the teacher and principle. Tell the principle what is going on. He will then begin to question the teacher as to why nothing was done before. The student will get punished and the teacher will learn the proper way to handle it. Everything is settled in one meeting and you know the principle talked to the teacher because you where there.  Also put him in karate over the summer. It will keep him busy, and teach him how to handle this bully if *god forbid* things do go farther then just name calling.

Answer 6

Have a word with the staff or the bully's parents, and ask each not to reveal the person who complained, or it could get worse for your son.

Answer 7

I would be careful about taking this to the principal, as others have suggested.  Sometimes this backfires.  The other parent may defend her son and then administrators reduce it to "horseplay" or fighting between the two kids (even though it's one sided).  Then you're stuck with your kid being labeled as one who get tangled up in these behavior problems.  

Instead, I would tell your son how to react if he's called a name or pushed.  How you want him to respond is up to you.  Different parents have different feelings on this one.  For me, I'd tell him to laugh it off or ignore it.  I'd explain that some kids feel insecure in school and they think it makes them look cool to call other kids names.  If there's pushing or shoving involved, It's better for him to go the teacher at the moment it happens.  That's a more credible story then to have mom call hours or days later to give a story she's heard second hand from a first grader.

**Pregnant:  If you read my answer carefully, I didn't say there was anything "wrong" with telling the principal or the bully's parents.  I simply pointed out some unintended consequences that often happen when you bring this kind of issue to the principal.

Answer 8

Being first grade, i don't know if i would leave it up to him to deal with.

You need to go and have a meeting with the principal and maybe arrange a meeting with the principal and the bullys parents and discuss this.

I think that is the only way to handle it.

Answer 9

For everything, there is an equalizer. At that age, even the Bullys are still Toddlers and never forget that they are someones pride and joy before you have your own Son humiliate and destroy him.  Having said that, ask your Son what he feels like doing to the bully. Discuss it with him and proceed.  Trust me. I've been in your shoes.

Answer 10

Go to the teacher and talk to her. Bulling is not allowed in school, anywhere on school property or school buses. If the teacher does not take care of the problem, go to the principle and tell him. Do this now,children should not have to put up with this and it is your job to take care of it.

Answer 11

You should have gotten him involved in martial arts some months back in anticipation of this happening!  It's still not too late to do so!  He will be taught how to "handle" this bully but not hurt the kid.  He will be taught how to defend himself from physical attack.

It MAY be my nephew who's doing this.  My brother explains that he is getting himself into trouble and becoming confrontational.  Teach your boy to kick his butt!