My five year old is having trouble seprating from me to go to school please help?

Question

We just moved from Tucson AZ, we have three girls, two are in school one goes to school just fine, the other my 5 year old has trouble with seperating from me. Its like someone is being mean to her! But I don't think it's a child! How do I find out and what do I do? I have already talk to the counselor about this and she told me she will check on her day to day!

Answer 1

When my brother was in preschool, he had trouble when my mom left. What my mom did was bring him to class, then sit aside in an adjoining room and waved to my brother every now and then so he knew she was still there.

After a little while he got so involved in his activities he never even noticed when she left.

Although I don't really think it's a good idea to just up and leave...maybe ask the teacher if you can sit at the back of the class for a bit, then when your daughter is preoccupied give her a quick kiss on the head and say goodbye and leave? That might help a bit.

Answer 2

Well when i first started school, i had seperation problems too. i would go to class and start crying the whole day. this was in the first grade by the way. i just couldnt stand being away from my mom. but then soon i just grew out of it. now sometimes i want to get away more, but thats just because im a rebelious teenager =]

hope it helps!

Answer 3

I had a student like this in my first grade classroom.  The student's mother and I had a conference after school to decide on a plan to help with this attachment problem.  We came up with a "behavior report."  (Typically I would use this for students who have difficulty following instructions or staying on task, but it also worked well in this particular situation.)  The student knew (after talking to mom and I) that it was her job to have a happy face at school.  On the top of each daily behavior report, I wrote the student's goal (as decided by mom and I) and noted how each student did at each point in the day (morning, lunch, afternoon).  I just circled a smiley face for each part of the day (frowny face, normal face, smiley face).  At the end of the day, I signed the behavior report and the student took it home for her mom to see.  The behavior report added incentive to the student to impress her mom at the end of the day while also encouraging her to become more independent.  After viewing the behavior report (if it was good), the student's mother would reward her.

The worked well for the student and parent while also making my life slightly less hectic as a teacher!  :)  Now, this is not to say this student never, ever had a rough morning.  She did from time to time... but this became more rare and less severe as the school year drew on.  Essentially, she was given an incentive to practice self-control and independence.

Answer 4

Sometimes a reward system works, like have a poster board with her name on it, and get stickers that she likes, then tell her that if she goes to school and doesnt get upset, that she will get a sticker, and when she gets so many stickers, she gets a prize of some sort.