My five year son is mixed with mexican and black an he tells me he is carmel wat should i do

Question

wat do i do

Answer 1

My kids are mixed (black and white) my 8 year old thinks she is white since her skin color is light and says her 7 year old brother is black because he is dark..we have tried to tell them over and over what is happening..i think they are to young to comprehend so we decided to have this talk later and let them have thier own feelings about it until they can understand

Answer 2

You stole my joke!!!!!

Tell him your wife drunk too much coffee while she was pregnant.

Answer 3

He's a child. It's fine for him to call himself caramel. He will one day understand his identity better, but for now leave him be.

Answer 4

tell him he shouldnt say that and tell him to say mocha  

Answer 5

Now is the time to take him to the library and look up books on different ethnicities...so that he can grow up knowing that there are so many people out there of different races and origins! Even Mexicans and Blacks within themselves are different colors...My husband is Mexican, straight from...and he is white and his brother and sister are dark. I am 1/2 white and 1/2 cuban and I have brown hair, green eyes and fair skin...so imagine my kids! One looks ethnic but not "latino" and one...well just call her "La India Maria" lol She is ALL LATINA FO SHO!

Answer 6

My son is color blind, so he would call him green!!  Kids don't see people as different colors, only adults do.  My home town is so ethnically diverse, all that my kids know (we are white) is that people come in all different colors.  Tell your son that everyone is different and that that is what makes us special.  He wont think it's a big deal if you don't make it one.

Answer 7

I bet he is a real sweetie!!

And he sounds smart, too.

Answer 8

Your son is trying to identify his place in the world - he sees all these different looking people and to him, he feels he is caramel. There's really no problem- stating that he is caramel is how he's internalizing his heritage and how he expresses understanding that he's a little bit different from others. Telling him he is wrong is only going to confuse him and stress him out a little - labeling himself as something is a huge step- encourage his discovery and over time explain the correct term to him, but don't make it seem like he is wrong in what he likes to be called. After all, his color probably IS something like caramel coloring, so in his head, it makes sense!

Answer 9

As long as he doesn't have a problem with it, you shouldn't either. He's trying to discover who he is.  

Answer 10

whats wrong with him saying hes carmel?

Answer 11

Does he say this in a defeated way? Does he think of being "Carmel" as a bad thing? Do you think he picked this up from kids teasing him at school? I guess it is a bit strange for a 5 year old to pick up this "slang" or what have you...but kids these days get a lot of stray ideas from who knows where.

If he says it proudly, then you know it's not a self-esteem or bullying problem, but perhaps you should explain to him that the color of his skin is not important--but his heritage is! Tell him he is not "carmel", he is Mexican American and African American .Explain to him how African Americans and Mexican Americans have very beautiful roots. Start instilling him at an early age that diversity is a wonderful thing!