My friend's 3 year old is eating to much and had an really bad attitude how do I help?

Question

I used to babysit this child and she would always go straight to the fridge but I would feed her breakfast,lunch,and a snack.She was not that bad with me if I told her no but with her mom she is rude yells at her and does not listen at all if she tells her no.I've seen it.Her parents are on the overweight size but don't buy or eat junkfood really.But the three year old will eat or want 6+ snacks a day and is already hungry after eating a big dinner.She will not listen to her,sleep in her own bed,she just does not understand no and will talk back.Her dad will punish her and then apologize that it's his fault.She is already kicking walls and throwing toys around when she gets sent to her room.The mom will raise her voice at her and the dad gets onto the mom about it and they will start arguing.She can't handle it anymore and is stressing what advice can I give her to get her through this?

Answer 1

she needs a butt wooping!!!

Answer 2

i would tell her straight up. STOP spoiling you child easy. say NO! tell her to start putting her foot down and sticking to it. i would take the child to the doc. and see if she is at the right weight that she should be hopefully not overweight. make sure her punishment are good ones not 5 minutes in time out! if she doesnt put discpline expecaily at this age it will be too late. this is were they get veryyyy snotty.

Answer 3

She needs to stop spoiling her kids...

Answer 4

This is your friends child and you cannot raise her...I understand your frustration as well as the childs frustration...these parents need to get on the same page with discipline...but you cannot do this for them...this child acts this way because her parents discipline styles or LACK of are at odds...this kid doesn't know which end is up...there is no structure nor continuity in her life so she reacts badly...poor kid! She eats out of confusion and frustration...the parents need Parenting classes.

Answer 5

dont get involved!

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Answer 6

This is a case for SuperNanny, or Nanny911. Seriously. I've seen this type of situation on their shows and they have helped the parents nip it all in the bud.  :-)

A child knows how to manipulate their parents. Since she knows she can get her way or act out like this with her mom and dad, she does and she will push to the limits. My son is three, and at this age, they do test their limits and talk back to see how you will react and if they will get the same reaction each time.

For your friends husband to yell at her in front of the child, is a huge NO NO. The child then knows that she can manipulate both of them because she will definitely get away with her attitude. Time outs, and consistancy will pay off. But honey, you can only do what you can while you babysit. This all has to come from them. You can advise them, and that's about all you can do.

Kids do eat a lot since they are growing, but yes...her food intake does need to be managed a lot better.

I would talk with your friend and let her know that may be SuperNanny, or Nanny911 can help them. They have done miracles in just one weeks time!

I know some people will say to stay out of it, but there is a fine line with meddling, and trying to give constructive advice to a close friend. And with just mentioning that SuperNanny could help them, will most likely be enough. I would take copies of success stories to them to back you up and to help them realize that they are not the only ones going thru this. Several families go through this tough stage of their children's lives. And it's hard.

Good luck and I hope your friend takes the suggestion of calling SuperNanny, or Nanny911.  :-) Take care.

Answer 7

She needs discipline and mom and dad need to agree on what that will mean.  The punishment needs to fit the crime...and dad needs to grow a backbone.  

As far as her eating, my son was like that and then I had to set a snack schedule...he gets 3 snacks a day at 930, 330 and 700.  Thats how we roll.

It took some getting used to but now it works great and the younger three are used to this as well.  Instead of asking for a snack theyll ask...how much longer til snack time.  And if they do ask for a snack Ill remind them that its not time or snack yet.  At 3, she should get this routine and it will give her some control, which it sounds like she is begging for.

Answer 8

As the first person to anwear, let me say that i UNDERSTAND! I have a 3 year old sister and she is just the same. Eating is good for them just make sure u get them hooked on HEATHLY foods, or try disguising the food in other foods. Let the kid be a kid but disapline them but showing them the right path to a healthy diet. hope this helps bye!

Answer 9

Mom and Dad need to come to a mutual descion about what the agree on what the don't agree on, what forms of dicipline they agree on ect.

Sounds like dad is really undermining mom. this shows little girl that it's okay to be disrespectful.

mom and dad need to get on the same side as each other or there will be a troublesome future ahead for the whole family.