My friend's cutting herself. What do I do?

Question

She started 2 years ago when her mother had some major heart problems, and she hasn't stopped since... A year ago, she tried to hang herself but then something got in the way.

What should I do? She told me this half a year ago, and I promised I would never tell anyone. But she has me really worried. Sometimes when she is bored she'll unscrew the blade of a sharpener and start running it across her fingers. Othertimes, she'll be snapping a rubber band against her wrist...

What should I do? I'm scared that something little might one day push her over the edge...

Answer 1

Uh, get help...you really should tell someone...I mean she'll probably hate you for a while, but it's better for her to live a better life and I'm sure she'll thank you later. Or just trying to talk to her about it.

Answer 2

oh!i think you should consult a psychologist about ur friend as soon as possible.

Answer 3

This is very difficult. You need to keep her safe no matter what that involves. I know that you told her you wouldn't tell anyone, but think of it this way... If you don't tell anyone, she may end up ending her life and then you would be put into a world of guilt and sorrow and wondering what if you had told someone. You may ruin your friendship for a SHORT period of time by telling someone but as long as she knows you did it because you care everything may work out in the end. When you finally decide that this is best, here is a hot line you can call. You can make it anonymous on your half, but please try and get your friend help. Life is so precious and I would hate to see my friend in this position.  I wish you and her the best of luck and I hope she is in better health very soon!

1-800-273-TALK (8255). You will be routed to the closest possible crisis center in your area.  

Answer 4

well is elf harm but have been trying to stop so i havent fot about one mont. its hard to stop and is addictive. just be there ofr her and tell her whenever she wants to talk no matter the time that she cabn call you. just let her know you love her and you care.also i use to cut with one particular object and couldnt cut using anythign else so try find out if shes the same and try to take it away from her.

also the feeling is nice and a one of a kind so she will find it hard.

xoxo

good luck

Answer 5

Hi, Im really sorry to hear about the position you're in. I know you dont want to break her confidence by telling people, but you would be doing her a favour. I know its hard, but as you say one day something may push her over the edge. You wouldnt be able to live with yourself if something bad happened to her.

Yes, she may be annoyed for a bit if you tell someone but I suffer from depression myself and I'll tell you that I'd be also relieved if someone sought help for me. It sounds like your friend really needs it.

Try to encourage your friend to talk to a responsible relative, teacher or school counsellor herself, offer to go with her for support and assure her it will help to make things better for her. Im sure she doesnt want to go on the way she is.

If you cant convince her then you may have to tell someone yourself.

Good luck.

Answer 6

This sounds quite serious. I definitely think you need to tell someone about this, as if anything really bad was to happen, you'd hate yourself for not telling anyone. Its such a delicate problem and really not something just anyone can deal with, she needs professional help I think if you are worried something bad might happen. Your friend might hate you for trying to get help, but I think this is what you've got to do as you cant be at her side 24/7. Good luck.

Answer 7

Try hanging out with her more, so that shes not thinking about negative things.  

Answer 8

tell her that you are her friend and you do not want anything to happen to her and if she does keep on cutting herself then tell she will might die on day because of that. and tell her her mom will be fine if she believes in herself that she will be fine.

Answer 9

The answer is at once both simple and difficult: You have to tell someone.

Though keeping her promise is important, you are also probably the only person that can stop her from potentially taking her life.

You have to tell someone competent and possibly a professional, they will help her. She needs to be helped.

I know that you want to keep her promise, but if you tell someone you just might save her.  

Answer 10

get her some professional health or tell her to knock it off. Find something that makes life worth living and if she returns back to normal that's great, but if not, she's crazy and there is nothing you can do except ock her away in an insane asylum.

which would make her want to die more so ur kind of screwed