My friend always feels bad when I get her things........?

Question

My best friend is constantly feeling guilty when I get/buy/give her things. Like I went to a Paramore concert last week and I got her a t-shirt because she couldn't come--she really loves it and everything, but she keeps telling me she feels bad. Her parents are extremely restricting, so it's hard for her to go anywhere or see me very often. She thinks she needs to get me gifts or something or pay me back to make it even, but I'm trying to tell her that all she needs to give me is her friendship! I love her like a sister, and I don't want her to feel bad for the things I give her.

I think she thinks that I give to much, not just with gifts, but also in our friendship. She says I'm always always there for her, ready for advice and comfort when needed, but sometimes she's unable to constantly be there for me. I think this is because she needs more help from me sometimes, (her family is very chaotic, her parents are kind of extremists,) and I don't mind helping her.

But what can I do to tell her that I don't want her to feel bad? I've told her exactly that, but she's says "I know, I know, but I still feel bad about everything."

Answer 1

Wow Ur friend is so sweet,i mean she really cares for u.she is probably feeling guilty cuz she is not able to return Ur favors...avoid buying her expensive gifts and the next time she says she feels bad,just tell her u love her very much and that u will be friends forever,so she has the rest of her life to repay u.

Answer 2

wow that's hard to answer.....maybe you should ask her what's really bugging her! maybe shes hiding something from you! just ask her!