I've been good friends with this girl for almost 10 years now. We usually have a great time together - except for one thing that has ALWAYS bothered me about her; she has to turn everything into a competition.
She has been doing this since I first knew her in high school - it was always about grades or music (we played the same instrument). If she beat me at something, she would always made these snide little comments, sometimes in front of people. Like if she got a better grade on a test, she would say, "Oh you got a D. Didn't you study alot? I got an A and didn't study at all." And if I beat her it was always because she was too cool to study/practice/care. This has continued on all throughout our friendship. (i.e. "Everyone knows a math major is WAY more work and harder than liberal arts", etc)
Anyway, I've ignored it as best I can for the most part, but lately it's gotten a lot worse. I know it's because she is having her own problems (she is having a hard time finding a job after college with her fancy math degree while I got lucky with a great job, and her engagement is not working out), but I'm getting really fed up. I said something to her about it, but she completely denied it and acted like she didn't know what I was talking about.
I don't know what to do - I would miss her friendship if I ended it over this, but I'm not really having a good time being around her anymore because she is ALWAYS saying something. I don't care if she thinks she's better than me, or if she's really jealous of any success I have that she doesn't. I would hope she would be happy for me, but I can't change how she feels - but I can't take her saying things out loud anymore. Especially since it seems like lately she has really been doing it alot more in front of other people too. I'm really at my wits end. What should I do?
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