My friend and I like the same girl what to do?!?

Question

We were at the mall and I met this girl that worked at the one clothing store we were in. We started talking and then my friend came up and joined us. While I was in the fitting room he started talking to her. When I came out the 3 of us talked for a while. After my friend and I got her number we left and asked the usual question, "what did you think of her?" his first response was eh she's ok, where I was attracted to her from the start. She invited us downtown Friday night. I told her I'd be there and my friend said maybe. After telling me he wasn’t interested and he had to work the next morning he told me he wasn't going. Then last night he tells me that he's now all the sudden attracted to her and that he is going out Friday to see her as well. So I had to ask what we do from here since we both like her. He made a joke and didn’t want to talk about it. I’m not threatened by him as far as picking up girls I just don’t want to jeopardize our friendship but at the same time I really want to pursue this girl.

I know the whole bros over hoes bit so any other advice would be appreciated. Let me know if there’s anything else you need to know to help out.

Answer 1

I know it's hard and I have been there before, but, did either of you stop to see what the girl wanted. if she even wants a relationship or just friends.. Or who she is attracted to..

I would wait for friday and both go out, if she doesn't come on at all to either of you than you know that she just wants friends.

If she does choose one, you both should aggree that who she does choose the other cannot be upset or mad.

hope this does help, but that is a hard subject.. good luck

Answer 2

Have you considered that this girl is playing with you guys?

Why wasn't she more specific from the very beginning?

Do you think that she is worthy of your interest? She sounds to me that she is not very serious.

Furthermore, I don't think your close friend is as close as you think he is. Maybe not from his side, otherwise he wouldn't compete with you.

Well if you really fancy her, go for her. Your buddy obviously doesn't care about your friendship since he doesn't care about your feelings, why should you?

Answer 3

y would she ask you both out?

Answer 4

Think of a game (chess, tiddlywinks etc) that you know for sure your friend is not good at and challenge him to a game, winner gets first chance with the girl.

Answer 5

I would be yourself.

Don't pretend to be somebody your not to win the girl over.

Do something romantic (if that's you), like bring her flowers.

Good luck, and hope this helped!

Answer 6

Broes over hoes? So you think they girl is a hoe? Well maybe if thats how you feel, she'd be better off with your friend?

ok anyway, heres what you do. You both go and whoever sheseems more interested in, then the other can agree to back off. Just make sure both of you are in agreement about it before you head out! If she seems more interested in him, then just remain friendly and respect her choice and your friend. Spit happens. Also, it doesn't matter who met or liked her first. It isn't a game. It's a girl. A human being. She will like whoever she likes. And if she ends up liking him more, you can't get mad at him. Maybe your friend was just telling you that because he was thinking of your feelings but he can't stop thinking of her too. Talk with him and see HOW interested he is.

Answer 7

Go with your friend. If you go with the girlfriend you loose your friend, and you could split up with your girlfriend. if you go with your best friend sure you loose the girl. but you'll still have a friend. REMEMBER FRIENDS BEFORE LOVE LIFE. P.s next time go shopping with yourself.

Answer 8

tell him how you feel, maybe h**l back off and give you some respect because you did like her first. also he didn't have like her in the beginning and you did which proves you really love, i think u should just tell him that

Answer 9

you know it doesn't matter because she is the ultimate decision-maker here and has the upper hand.  don't put alot of thought or worry into it because you can't make up her mind for her.  if you compete for her attention and affection, she will only get used to be fussed over and might even make a monster out of her.

let your friend know that you aren't backing down,

and try to keep as many threesomes as you can that way you can all be around each other and get things out in the open.  

best to stay friends with both of them if you ask me

Answer 10

If you both like her then there are two thing s you could do:

1. Back off the girl because if you both like her it's probably not a good idea to get involved

2. Both of you try to win her over but do it while trying to look calm and BE YOURSELF. Hopefully she will begin to know you guys better and then you will be able to see who she wants to be with. If she chooses you or him or somebody else it's up to the girl and if she chooses somebody else then quietly back off. Also remember many relationships start with friendships. Start with being nice to her and don't reveal your crush. Eventually, you might win her over. (Remember I don't really think your friend has asked this question on yahoo answers so you have an advantage)

Answer 11

Leave that to her .