My friend and her husband are TTC. I just don't think it's a good idea as she can't read well, she's always?

Question

mispronouncing words, asking me how to spell words for her or can write something out for her. Also her hubby didn't finish HS and he doesn't even have a GED. How should I suggest to her not to have a child until they get there act together...

Answer 1

its up to them.. not you. How would you feel if you wanted a baby and they said that maybe you should get your act together first?  

Answer 2

Since when is someone's education level a determining factor as to whether and when they have kids? That's their choice, not yours.

Answer 3

i would love for u to be my friend! :@/

Answer 4

Just because she has some sort of learning disability and he didn't graduate doesn't mean they can't start a family.  That's kind of harsh, especially to be saying about your own friend.  Do they have the money (jobs)?  Are they for the most part stable?  

Answer 5

education is not a prerequisite for having a baby.  its preferable so that you can get a job and take care of the baby.

you should just stay out of it.  

there is never a perfect time to have a baby.  

Answer 6

just because she is not the smartest person in the world does not mean she does not deserve a child...and he did not finish high school . . oh gosh call the authorities right now..she could be an amazing mom and he child will go to school..it is none of your business and i think you are way out of line..it is not the best in the world that the baby will not have the brightest mother but the baby would be fine.there are so many other things to think about a mother.

you really need to stop calling yourself her friend you are so far from a friend..

Answer 7

you sound like a good friend. :|

Answer 8

Wow and she ur friend.. How would u like it if someone look down on u? Please mind ur own business

Answer 9

um, i'm rarely this blunt, but I think you should mind your own business.  It doesn't take a college education to raise a child and my grand-parents didn't have one, my mother was a factory worker and later a cleaner who left school at 15, which wasn't unusual here back then.  I have a bachelors degree with honors and my family were always encouraging us to study.  If this lady has decent morals, ethics, is compassionate and wants a baby, she's already ahead of the game.  the end.

Answer 10

Whether you are correct or not in your concerns...it isn't your choice. Their family, their bodies, their business.

Ideally, they would realize on their own that they may not be ready for a baby...but if not, just be as supportive as you can. They might need a lot of support once reality hits them.

Answer 11

Since when did you have to have a college education to have a baby. I think you should really mind your own business. If they want to have a child, and they feel as if they are ready and can take care of it then it's their business and not yours.