My friend and his fiance decided to get married early, but still want to have the wedding later.?

Question

This is not the first marriage for either one. They don't want to inform their guests that they are already married, because they don't want to share the details. But they want to go through with the wedding since everything is already planned. Can they put a note in the invitations explaining that they are married? How could it be worded without explaining details?

Answer 1

If they don't want anyone to know, then they shouldn't say anything. I am going to do the same thing, except everyone will already know that we are married. My fiance is going to Afghanistan soon so we don't have time to plan a ceremony until after he gets back. We are just telling people we are married, but delaying the ceremony. We are still going to treat it like a wedding, though. I don't think your friends need to say anything at all if they don't want to. However, I don't see why it has to be such a big secret.

Answer 2

whats the point of going through with the wedding, then? To get presents?

Kinda tacky, IMO

Answer 3

We had to elope because my husband is in the navy. We later had a renewal of the vows ceremony a couple months later so that everyone could be involved. They can just write join in the celebration of our marriage and renewing of the vows or something to that extent on their invitations. If they really don't want people to know then just pretend that the invites were already made and invite people as if they weren't married yet.

Answer 4

Yes, you can. I did. And NO not to get presents. We had already planned the wedding, sent invitations, etc... but then his son's mother went haywire and threatened all kinds of screwy stuff so we went and got married at the courthouse. Once she saw we would marry w/ or w/o her "blessing" she (sort of) let it go and we went ahead with our wedding without worrying that she'd pop up in the back row objecting.

The only difference is that you'll sign your marriage certificate and file it at the courthouse. At the wedding your officiant would normally sign it but now he/she won't have to. The wedding will now be strictly ceremonial as the marriage will already be legal.