My friend called me a hypocrite?

Question

for talking smack about John Edwards while I had cheated in the past on my ex-fiance with my current husband. I'm extraordinarily ticked off. How could a friend say that. Clearly there is a difference!

Answer 1

She's right.

Answer 2

Yes you are a hypocrite because if you cheated before and then your talking about someone who also cheated on their spouse, well I believe you shouldn't have say in this

Answer 3

Nah...clearly you deserved that title.  And by the way, most women are hypocrites anyway.

Answer 4

You are upset because she told the truth...Your husband may have known, but your ex-fiance didn't. You can't get mad at her when she was telling the truth. Be mad at yourself for not being honest back then. It's not something to be proud of or be mad at anyone else about.

Answer 5

The truth hurts

Not even mc cains new wife confessed to her adulterous affair to get mc cain

Answer 6

First off no matter what the situation is if one cheats then they cheat, so right off I would agree with your friend... The only time I would say a person isn't a hypocrite that has cheated that makes a comment about another cheating is when the person makes a statement like...

"I cheated in the past and discovered I was totally wrong and I will never cheat again, cheating is so wrong and I am glad I learned my lesson and I feel John Edwards was wrong as well and I hope he realizes it someday"..

This type of statement says while you might have cheated you seen the err of your ways and changed and you don't condone cheating... To just come out and say this person way wrong and you did it but the situation was different doesn't wash...

Answer 7

She called you one because you are.  Cheating is cheating.

Answer 8

ur friend needs to not bring up such issues about your past but you did in fact open the door to the conversation.

Answer 9

Your friend hit the nail right on the HEAD!

How would you feel if your ex had cheated on you?  There's your answer, you wouldn't have liked it!

Answer 10

You are correct, there is a difference. Your promise to marriage did not income a promise to stop meeting people before the marriage. I content one can not cheat on someone that is not their spouse. Cheating occurs only between married couples in my opinion.  

Answer 11

If you are knocking Edwards for having an affair, after having a 1.5 year overlap in relationships, you are indeed a hypocrite. Cut the guy some slack. Everybody , including you has an affair. Why are you so surprised, and why do you criticize him?

Answer 12

Were you separated at the time?  If you were still living as man and wife with your ex at the time, then yes, I must agree with your friend.