My friend commited suicide?

Question

my first friend i ever made when i moved, i was 10, we werent best friend but good friends, well she moved to arizona a few months back. she came to visit a couple weeks ago and i saw her for two days. i found out today that she hung herself. ive never had anyone i knew dead before and i dont know how to react.. im in shock, but im completely fine i dont feel like crying or anything. i know it would be alot worse if she lived her , but im used to her not being here. i was a bit sad but more surprised than anything, but ive decided not to let it ruin my life. is it gonna get worse? whats gonna happen now?this all happened 10 minutes ago

Answer 1

We can't predict if it'll get worse, hun. I really hope you don't become completely upset over it, but keep in mind that crying is okay, if the events start to get to you.

Deal however you need to. I'm so sorry for your loss, though.

Answer 2

Read a book.

13 Reasons Why by Jay Asher. Its a great book about a girl who commits suicide, and this guys who is dealing with it. You should read it.

Answer 3

i can't tell if it'll get worse for you, it depends on how you cherish the person. if you really share the person in your heart, it would be a shock to you at first, but it eventually will break you down. but if you hardly have her in your life in the first place, then it'll be less effective.

but don't be scared of the outcome. stay strong.

Answer 4

I'm very sorry about your friend. You may think in a few days that you could have stopped her if you had just known, or that you should have said other things that what you said while you saw her. That is probably not true, she may have planned this out months ago, or it may have just been weeks and there was nothing you could have done. You see now how hurt everyone is by this, remember this when you get stressed out, and don't let it get that far. Your friend needed to ask someone for help, but she never did, you should learn from her and remember that when you are stressed, or sad, or both, not to let it get that far and to ask for help.

Answer 5

I know how you feel...My fiance's friend hung himself too...and we didnt cry or anything...just got sad and felt bad...and were in shock!

don't let it get you down...stuff happens, what can you do...

You might feel a little more sad about it later since your still in more of a shock, but just dont let it depress you OK :) make sure you have friends or family to talk to when you feel sad :)  

Answer 6

Wow, sorry to hear about your friend.

I had a great friend who was killed in a bicycle/car accident a couple years ago. He was the first death I ever dealt with. Now that I look back on the experience, it made me question death, religion, the after life...It makes you appreciate life.

You may have a harder time in the future when things remind you of your friend. Otherwise, it's best to mourn and then move on with your life, remembering the good memories that you had with your friend.

I hope everything works out

Answer 7

You're in shock.  Later, it will probably come rushing in.  This is normal.  Some people always react like this and some people just sometimes and others may not express any major emotions and still others always get emotional immediately.

Whatever happens, process it.  When you need to cry, cry.  If you need to scream, scream.  Get everything off your chest as it comes and have someone you can talk to, like a parent or if you need, a counselor.  Don't bottle it up.

I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I can identify with you here. Unfortunately, I've had to go through it twice so far in my life. Roger decided to swallow the barrel of a shotgun and Zach put a pistol in his mouth. With roger it was a little easier to deal with than with zach. roger was older than us and lived down the road. Its tough even thinkin about that. he was a good guy. Never did find out the entire story and i dont believe what his widow says. Suspicious. Zach hit closer to home, literally. He lived 2 houses down from me and we had a lot of  good times. First time we met, we got into a fight. I won and after, I embarrassed him in front of everyone there. 15 mins later, I apologized and we became really good friends. As we grew up, we moved away from home and we kinda lost touch until I got a call from another friend we grew up with. Well, his wife anyway, she said she had bad news about Zach. I knew instantly. Its tough dealin with any death, but I know how ya feel. Lookin back, he would always say morbid thoughts like "ever wonder who'll be at your funeral?" When that came to mind the shock kinda wore off. At some point yull remember something and that will give you a clue to why she did this as I did with my friend. Ya never know whats goin on in some peoples minds. Some never understand that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Its a sad thing to go through for any age. Youll be ok. You will remember a conversation like I did and then you will know. Hindsight is 20/20, unfortunately. best of luck to you.

Answer 9

sorry to hear that.

you handled this situation very well congragulations.:]

everything will be fine.

Answer 10

its is good the you are not shaken in such a situation... so stay calm, visit her family... provide support to them...

Answer 11

Im pretty sure it's not gonna get any worse then it probably already is...I would be shocked too if one of my friends did that...but eventually you get over it.

If you say ur okay then u must be okay...take it easy and try and know that she's in a better place now...♥