My friend emailed me saying we cant talk anymore dont ask and blocked me. Should I respond?

Question

My friend whom I ve been casually romantic with emailed me one sentence:

"ummm...we cant talk anymore..dont ask."

Then he blocked me from contacting him and removed me from his friends list on myspace.

Im devastated that he no longer wants to talk and that he decided to handle things this way.

Should I send him this email Ive prepared:

tim i care about you more than you will ever know. i hope you never forget that!

your e-mail caught me by surprise since just a few days ago you told me I MISS YOU and that you wanted to chill with me after foster care.

i think you would be confused too if everything was going well, then all of a sudden the person you cared about "mysteriously" no longer wanted you in their life anymore.

it sounds like someone told you not to talk to me anymore, and block me, because the Tim i know would never be so cold and mean. i still cant believe you blocked me...

i know you dont want to hurt me but sending a one-sentence email saying "don't ask" is really cruel. would you wanna be treated that way?

if you knew how heartbroken ive been you would tell me whats up.

i feel like you should have trusted me with the truth instead of making me go insane wondering why you blocked me. i mean honestly tim, it just creates an awkward situation which could have easily been resolved peacefully.

i dont know what else to say tim... im sorry for emailing you from my other myspace but i had to get this off my chest.

i will always be here for you... and in my heart i hope you will call me when you get out of foster care... but for now i will respect your decision and give you all the space you need... i really miss you and im sorry for anything ive said or done to make you uncomfortable.

peace

Answer 1

No. I would just let him go.

There is no reason to pour your heart out and if whatever caused him to send that message goes away than he will come back if he truly cares. And if he ended it that way and blocked you and all of that, he is immature and not worth the effort.

Just walk away.

Answer 2

I feel that you shouldn't come on so strong to start it out send him something short not about how bad you feel or anything just say how it surprised you and what you think possibly could be the problem. If someone is reading it or blocking it don't give them a chance to fuel the flames. Speak in a distant tone that most people will disregard but a real friend would notice and understand the underlying message.

Biggest thing though is don't just look for an answer on these forums that you are going to do anyway really think about it.

Writing him off always is an option but not really knowing what holds your relationship together could cause a longer heart ache then just getting the negative answer that usually follows things of this nature.

Answer 3

he said, "we can't talk anymore. Don't ask."

I would respect that. i can't imagine why you wouldn't.

Answer 4

Don't waste your breath, although you have a lot of questions, you'll only be making yourself vulnerable to be hurt more.  He's done.  Cut your losses and move forward.  

Answer 5

Follow your heart. If it was me I would not write.  they ask for no contact.  they get that.  hurts, but they chose it

Answer 6

You use the word "friend" but your letter to him makes it sound like you feel much more strongly than that.. That's probably what scared him. Take it from me. Yes its unfair how he ended it but someone who is scared will definitely act that way. You need to just move on. Nothing you say or do will change his mind. He has to do that on his own. Good luck

Answer 7

let it go, he said no. leave it. if he doesnt come back he wasnt yours. please dont waste your energy on that. the world is full of mysteries, one has to learn to accept that.  

Answer 8

If they blocked you on MySpace, they will never get the e-mail so don't bother.

Answer 9

throw em in the gutter and go get another

Answer 10

UM WELL MAYBE U LEANED TO MUCH ROMANTIC TOWARD HIM AND THATS WHY HE SAID THAT SO I WOULD REPLY BACK AND ASK HIM WHY HE TOOK U OFF FRIENDS

Answer 11

For what ever reason, he has chosen to break off any contact with you.  As much as it may hurt, you have to accept his decision.  Your return email just sounds needy and like you are begging.  Don't stoop to that level.  Let some time go by and see what happens.  If he doesn't contact you with an explanation then you have to go on with your life.  If someone doesn't want you in their life, you can't change that by pleading.  Find someone who will respect you more than this.

Answer 12

There are Mexican soap operas in need of good writers, you might want to apply. But seriously, it is obvious that a third party is involved here, perhaps his e-mail communications are being/will be monitored, and whatever relationship you had before might become a liability for him in this new setting.  Whether it be foster family, or a new person i his life, the fact is you being around is not the best thing for him. Just take it as that and let it go, if/when things change, he'll look you up.  For now, just move on and quit the melodrama.

Answer 13

Dude, you asked the same question two days ago!  (and I think you asked it earlier than that.)  You got about a dozen good answers, all of them saying "leave the guy alone, it's over".  You picked your favorite answer, but I think you're just wanting someone to say it's OK to be a stalker.  

He's moved on, honey.  You need to move on.  And if you really respect his decision, why do you keep asking this question?  

The worst that can happen is that you get arrested for harassing the guy, and everyone else thinks you're sad.  

Answer 14

I really wouldn't email him that and put yourself on the line and all the control in his hands. I would send him a quick email along the lines of:

"Hi, I don’t have a clue what is going on, I really enjoy chatting with you and your friendship and I thought you felt the same way but clearly not. You have no right to tell me 'don't ask' because you know I need answers and it is wrong of you to behave like this. I would like to know what is going on, I think that is the least I deserve.

I hope you decide to do the right thing and let me know what is going on. So I guess I hope to hear from you soon"

I hope you get the answers you are looking for, but remember they might not be what you want to hear. Xx