My friend has a gf and tells me he wants to **** me.?

Question

he told me he liked me, and we talked about hooking up at a mutual friends party. but i didnt no how i felt about him. he was quitting school in one week.

then two days before he left, i told him i liked him, and he said "geeze why do you wait till im leaving to tell me this" and then i found out later that night he is going out with a S****y chick i really hate. they had s*x 2 nights after they started going out. and he told me bout it, cos he didnt want me finding out bout it from anyone else.

he still tells me that he wants to hook up with me at the party.

i really like him, and everyone is telling me taht him and his gf is a purly s*x based realationship. on msn, when his gf is online, he tels me that he is horny, and wants me to come to his house. While he is talking to her at the same time

i have asked him if he tells her the same thing, and he says no.

i dont no what to do.!

why do you think he is telling me this stuff?

Answer 1

Go by your gut feeling. Ask yourself how you really feel about this guy and find out what he is really like.

Him being in a "relationship" purely for s*x is not right. s*x is the deepest and most meaningful expression of love, and doing it for the wrong reasons will be regretted later on by those who do it.

If you feel good and think you can have a good relationship with him, then go ahead. Otherwise, there are seas of men out there who you may be better off with.

Answer 2

I would hate to say this but I don't think he wants to be your boyfriend, he probably wants to have s*x with you. I can't believe that you are 15 and you have already had a 2 year "serious" relationship, wow that's too young.

Answer 3

So, I work in maternity, and I've had quite a few teenage patients, but one of them really sticks in my head

She was sixteen (got pregnant at 15), very pretty, having a baby, baby daddy long gone, genital warts ALL over her private parts...I'm talking inside and all over the outside.  

The thing about genital warts that most don't know is that they're HARD...like rocks.  Her v****a was like broken cement....s*x with her would have torn a guy's privates to bloody shreds.

Thankfully for her baby, she ended up with a c-section.  So there she was, at 16, with a baby, stretch-marks, a c-section scar, a v****a full of STD horrors, and the horny guy? A distant memory.

Good luck with that.

Answer 4

Sorry to tell you but that boy wants to have s*x with as many girls as will let him.  He doesn't care about you as a person. You are a s*x object to him.. To him you are  nothing special just some easy stupid girl that is so emotionally needy she will spread her legs to get some attention from him. Wise up before you get pregnant or an STD.

Answer 5

You are in for disappointment and heartbreak if you go out with this guy.  He is bad news whether you like him or not.  There is no way he will be faithful to you--he is not faithful to his current gf.  Is that what you want?  Find a nice boy you enjoy talking to and have fun with who will be honest with you and faithful.  Tell this scumbag THANKS BUT NO THANKS.

Answer 6

If your 15 you need to get some help, a 2 year relationship is nothing at that age except childish games, you dont need to be having s*x and making mistakes with guys who are known for sleeping around, unless your asking to get some type of std, or if you have a death wish (aids) if you think your ready, get some help get educated and find someone who hasnt done the whole 8th grade population of girls....

Answer 7

And this is in the adoption section because??????

Answer 8

yeah, ok.  here's the deal.  

You think "hook up" is a potential new relationship

He thinks "hook up" is s*x

stop thinking that the attention is because he likes you for who you are....he is giving you attention because he thinks he can get s*x from you.

SO WAKE UP

Answer 9

Um, what does this question have to do with adoption

Answer 10

Tell him that if the other chick is just a s*x thing and he wants to be in an actual relationship with you, he'll drop her for you.  

Tell him if he wants to be with you you will both first have to go to a doctor or Public Health to be tested for STDs.

If he's not willing to do either of these things, he's not interested in you for anything "above the waistline, Sunshine."  

PS--Why is this posted in Adoption?

Answer 11

sounds like a sleezebag player.

don't get your heart broken - don't do anything with this loser.

Answer 12

This is crazy--

although he might like you-- do you really want someone to just want to hook up with you and leave you???

I'm sure you like him-- but be logical...

most guys will tell girls things to get what they want-- he wants his cake and eat it too

he wants you and he is doing someone else....

Be smart-- you really dont need to hook up with someone that has this kind of track record---say he does cheat on his g/f with you...

you will then develop more feelings-- want to be with him-- and then realize he is leaving....

not just that-- if he cheats with you he will cheat on you.

Think it through-- I think it is a mistake...

dont give in--dont hook up with him....

he is just being a boy with hormones....

the guy that will treat you right will come along --just wait

Answer 13

this kid stuff..

Answer 14

Oh sweetie....You are so better then this guy. You have value and worth and deserve a wonderful guy that will treat you with respect.

This guy obviously has no respect for any woman.

Stay away from this guy he is just trying to line up another conquest. And you are worth more then this! You risk and STD or an unplanned pregnancy....consequences you may have to live with for the rest of your life!

Answer 15

hehe

Answer 16

You are FIFTEEN years old.

You are NOT ready for it.

And you do NOT know what a serious relationship is.

Answer 17

Oh, how romantic. (note sarcasm)

Interesting that you put this in the adoption section because if you continue "hooking up" at the age of fifteen you will inevitably become pregnant.  Do you know how many girls come on this site completely confused because they are fifteen pregnant and don't know what to do?   It is so sad.

This guy sounds like a total loser.  So, he's horny.  He can take care of that himself.  Please have some self respect and don't give yourself to someone who only wants to USE you.  Why is he telling you this?  Because he wants s*x.  That's it.  He doesn't want you he wants IT.  Why risk your entire future for an idiot?  Hang out on this site and you will read story after story of girls who started out like you and are now forced to make the hardest decisions of their lives.

Answer 18

Kelly,

He wants to use you for s*x.  You should have more self-respect.  You should be offended when some "hot" guy says all he wants to do is s***w you.  Condoms do not protect you from herpes.  That is a life long disease with no cure that i wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.  What about venereal warts (human papalloma virus)?  Did you know that your chances of cervical cancer increases greatly from this and no condom will protect you from this either.  What if there is a hole in the condom?  You could get a std that could affect your fertility someday, do you want children someday?  Not to mention that no birth control is 100%, what if you get pregnant by him?  Is he good father material and do you want to be tied to him for the rest of your life?  What about aids or hiv?  Why aren't you asking yourself these questions?  There are serious adult ramifications to casual s*x, that are not worth the one time encounter.

You have to right to say NO, use it.  Be offended and send him on his way.  You deserve better than this guy, meanless s*x is trashy and can be life altering.  You are not ready for this by the sounds of it.  You are only 15, get your mind off s*x, go out and live your life.  Read a good book, fly a kite, hang out at the mall, do some volunteer work, enjoy a board game with your family, life is wonderful.  Enjoy it!:)