My friend has a secret and won't tell me, what should I do?

Question

Lets say my best friend is Joe, and his friend that is a guy is James. So Joe told me he had a secret and he wouldn't tell me what it is about. I asked him several times what it is and he would not tell me which made me upset. He said I wouldn't understand, and that he didn't feel confortable telling me because I am not a guy so I backed off. (He said it was about a girl or something) I ended up asking his close friend that is a guy and his name is James. James said that Joe likes some random girl but I was like ok, and I never brought it up again. Then today Joe goes I feel so relieved that I told someone my secret today, and I was like oh. So James didn't know when I asked him, so there is a secret and I don't know about it. Should I ask Joe again or see if James knows? Or should I just back off and ignore everything, even if it is painfull, but then again why would Joe bring it up if he didn't want me to know or ask? I think it's mean that Joe won't tell me because he is my best guyfriend, and I totally get him normally. What should I do? Btw, he did tell me that it doesn't involve him getting hurt so I know it wont really hurt him because he wasn't lying. :////

Answer 1

I think you need to let it all go and stay out of it. You can't force someone to spill their guts if they don't feel comfortable. It may be a "guy" issue, or something emotional which he doesn't feel right telling you. Carry on with your life and if he feels comfortable telling you, he will.

Mississippi150

Answer 2

i'm sure james told joe that you went behind his back and asked abouit the secret ....and this is joe's way of getting back at you ......Joe told you already that he didn't want to tell you.. so you should leave this alone.

Answer 3

hmm confusing.

you lost me at Lets say my best friend is Joe, and his friend that is a guy is James..