My friend has been a selfish bridezilla towards us bridesmaids. How do I dress to upstage her on her big day?

Question

My friend has been a selfish bridezilla towards us bridesmaids. How do I dress to upstage her on her big day?

Answer 1

I hope you're kidding, but if not, DON'T do that! It will make you look like a complete fool and you'll lose your friend in the process. Most brides ARE bridezillas, at least a little bit anyway, so get used to it. You accepted that face when you said you'd be in the wedding.

Answer 2

Joke question, right?

Otherwise the way to upstage her is to behave perfectly. Makes her look that much worse. This includes not trying to upstage her.

Answer 3

just quit, brides have no right to treat people badly just because they are getting married.

go to your friend tell her how you fell and tell her that you want out of the wedding because she treats you so badly.

Answer 4

You don't.Thats horrible.

Answer 5

You should know the number one rule: no one (bridesmaids or female guests) should outshine a bride on her wedding day, it is just wrong. Bridezilla or not.

By her wedding day, she will calm down and would not be a burden to her bridesmaids so if you even attempt to 'upstage' her, you will definitely p**s her off than she were beforehand and she might not forgive you for quite awhile.

Personally I don't understand why some women have to become like a nasty monster to everyone prior to their wedding and can't keep their cool. But you need to overlook her bridezilla ways and if you are a good friend, you will not plot revenge and understand she will turn back to normal.

Answer 6

Get a grip.

Be happy for your friend and talk to her about the stresses she is going thru. As her 'friend' perhaps she needs your support if she is going to be paying for you to eat and drink at her wedding.

Answer 7

You can't be that good friends. Instead of ruining her big day, which the planning would be sooo stressful on her, you could try and support her and be an understanding friend.

If you can't do that, then quit.

Answer 8

Don't

How would you feel if she did that to you on your wedding day?

Answer 9

she is the bride & can be the bridezilla if she wants to be. this is her day so if there are certain things she wants that you may not like or agree with. i dont'think you should try to upstage your friend on her weddign day. if you are unhappy then back out of the wedding. noone says you have to be in it if you don't want too be.

Answer 10

its her day it would be very rude and start a fight

Answer 11

Maybe you really aren't that good of friends after all if you are looking to upstage her......yikes...

Answer 12

Remember, anything you do to try and upstage the bride will only make YOU look bad.  Grow up, be a friend to her, and be a constructive part of her wedding.

Answer 13

The pressure is unbelievable for some brides.  My wedding was easy as h**l.  It was a breeze.  Now my sis's was a 3 ring circus.  I am suprised she held it together at all.  But she was no bridezilla...she saved that for pregnancy! haha

Seriously though, she shouldn't treat ya'll like dirt either, but anything you do WILL make you look like an evil witch because everyone else at the wedding won't know what she has been like.  Sit her down and talk to her.  I mean be honest and see where that gets ya.  If that doesn't work, then get rude right back and just ask her how it feels.  Sometimes when someone EXPERIENCES the ill treatment, they get it and will stop.  If that also fails, jump ship.

Answer 14

There's lots of things you could do... however, they are all going to make you look worse than the bridezilla. You don't want that! Right?

Answer 15

NEVER try to upstage a Bride!! Even if she's the biggest ****** you ever came across.  Try to keep in mind the immense pressure she's under right now.  Do everything she asks of you, and do it with a smile.  She'll be back to normal the day after the wedding.

Answer 16

Don't do that! Why not talk to the bride and ask her calmly what has been stressing her, if there are anything you could do to help etc. Trying to upstage her is petty, there is no need to go down that road, it'll only cause more problem.

Answer 17

two wrongs dont make a right and if you go ahead with this plan then I would watch your back on your wedding day!!!!

Just think how much money shes putting into this, shes prob nervous, stressed etc (like most brides)

Its a very hard thing to upstage a bride no matter how pretty you are no one will be looking at here.

The only way I can think of is that you where a white gown which would have everyone stare at you for all the wrong reasons. (but only for about 10 mins)

Answer 18

I'm sorry you've been having to deal with this.  Big events like weddings do tend to bring out the worst in people.

The problem with the "Bridezilla" is that most people on the wedding day will have no idea what has happened during the planning or about her actions.  They will only see the beautiful bride on her wedding day.  

Not saying her behavior is justified, but you don't want to go down to that same level.  Please do not try to sabotage her wedding.  You will end up looking petty and foolish if you try to upstage her.  Conduct yourself as the lady you are and hold your head high.

Good luck.

Answer 19

Don't be so passive-aggressive. If you have a problem talk it out with her rather than trying to up-stage her. Otherwise, you'll only end up looking like a brat to all of the wedding guests. She may be stressed out and not realize that she is being a bridezilla.

Answer 20

How mature...

Answer 21

...Thats horrible. I'm planning my own wedding and until you plan your own, you have no idea the kind of stress it creates. It's that one day she has been looking forward to her whole life, and naturally, she wants everything to be perfect. "dressing to upstage her" is probably the most horrible thing you could do to her, and I vote strongly against it. Let her have her day. Yours will come, and then you'll understand. And if you DO attempt to upstage her, I hope you're prepared for the humiliation you're setting yourself up for. They may "ooooh" and "ahhh" over you for the whole 23 seconds it takes you to walk down the aisle, but the minute she comes through those doors, you WILL be forgotten. And when its all over and the guests realize your intention, they are going to hate you just as much as the bride will. I promise.

Answer 22

ummmm..personally i dont think that u should upstage her on her big day becuase she will only get to have one big day. but if you really want to get her back i think that you should either talk to her and tell rather then doing something childish which you wil probaly forget. If you really want to u dont have to invite her to ur wedding =) sorry if i sound harsh good luck i hope this helps

Answer 23

Don't. She's just under a lot of stress to make her day perfect. Try to be a real friend and be more understanding.

Answer 24

dont do that.just forgive her becoz its her big day and probably the most important day of her life

peace! :o)