My friend is becoming....?

Question

a s**t. We just started high school and all of a sudden she is a completely different person. She met new friends, i met new friends and now we are just growing apart. But we still talk a lot. But not as best friends. She wears so much makeup, and she just got a haircut. Just like mine.. argg. And she always wears the tiniest shorts and a bra thats too big for he. She is definitely going in the wrong direction, and i dont really want to be her friend anymore.... how can i change her? How can i get close to her again without turning into her? This is the worst thing that has happened to me this year...loosing my best friend from 5th grade.

Answer 1

shes not gonna wanna change unless she wants to

i mean you can try talking to her about it and if she gets mad dont go any further wth it you might lose her altogether

all i can say is  if she is happy this way let her b and when she needs you be there for her

and then she will realize what a true friend you are  

Answer 2

i feel srry for u...and this is a very tough situation...BUT! There is always answers!! Ok first, u need to sit down with her and explain this to her!  If you hav enough courage to ask complete strangers about this then u hav enough courage to explain this to one of her best friends! u have to tell her if she doesn't become the friend u made friends with then u better start doing rain checks of being her friend! She can't just do this to u!!! She is ur best friend!!! Just tell her the good old days with u and her!! And u either get her back or a complete stranger..

Answer 3

Sorry to hear about that. The best thing you could probably do is to not be close friends anymore. I mean b/c you could easily have whispers about your reputation if you hang out with her. Its sad how everyone goes there separate ways but in the end if you guys are supposed to be friends it will happen. I dont advise you to talk to her about her being a s**t as it will offend her and put an even bigger wedge between your friendship. Good luck!

Answer 4

sorry to tell you this but that is high school!!!!!!!

your going to go through so many friends ....

why do you wanna change her shes not gonna listen to you

you just keep being yourself and dont change jus pay attention to your classes  

Answer 5

Well.. You cant change her. But you can watch her slowly ruin her life. And think it's the funniest **** ever ha that is what i would be but **** I'm a s**t myself lol  

Answer 6

aw well you won't lose each other entirely.. sometimes you grow apart and the back together again.  Its happened to me.. some of my  friends were rowdier then me in hs but.. i still spent some time with them; not necessarily in clubs and stuff but when they got together at some1 house or something

make new friends with similar interests then maintain a relationship (which doesn't mean you have to spend all your time with her or follow her mannerisms in any way) but eventually she might mature a little and she might even start to follow you as a positive example.  

perhaps sit her down and tell her gently how you feel about certain things (makeup ect; not your opinion of her necessarily but the things in general and you might be able to get her to see a negative light on what she's doing).

Answer 7

If you have a mind of your own then you don't have to worry about turning into her. Just because you're around someone doesn't mean you will act like them. You're in high school which says you're old enough to know right from wrong and make your own decisions despite peer pressure. As for your friend, if you're drifting apart and don't like what she's becoming then you should desolve the friendship because it looks like it's heading down that road anyway. And remember this, you cannot change people, only they can do that. She might not want to change anyway, this may just be the true person she is and you either have to accept that or move on.

P.S. You're gonna lose a lot of long-time friends. That's just a sad fact of life. No one stays friends with someone forever. People drift apart, that's a proven fact. You guys are in different places now so that must be accepted. Maybe she'll come around, but don't sit there waiting for that to happen.

Answer 8

Okay everyone goes threw the faise where they change and high school is probley the most likely they will i can see how u want to help her your a good friend!..but i think your going to much into this i mean it is her life let her experiment a Little...mention to her that her shorts might be a Little short or say you have heard other kids in your school calling her a ho* witch isn't a lie because I'm sure if she dresses like this then they will..but dont get to into it if she tells you to leave her alone about it then do that because eventually she will learn that she cant keep dressing like this sadly your just going to have to let her learn the hard way..if worse comes to worse dont be her friend anymore high school is big with allot of knew people make knew friends:)

Answer 9

get a new better friend. Like my dad always says 'Have lots of friend so if one goes bad you have a other". forget her. Sorry I don't mean to be mean.

Answer 10

i know how you feel, i've been through it.

shes obviously changed for a reason,

so try to figure out what that reason is.

honestly? don't try to change her.

shes being who she wants to be.

you can still be super close friends

without turning into her, just be who YOU want to  be

and do what YOU feels right, regardless of what she says.

good luck, i know it hurts losing a friend :(

Answer 11

" how can i chane her " ......... how can you change her? - you can`t; everybody changed, even the person you thought you knew the most, changes. all you can do right now, is try to watch over her, and not let her make mistakes.

Answer 12

That's what happens when you grow up. Some people change for the better others change for the worse. Your friend obviously took a turn for the worst and has now lost your respect, there is nothing you can do about that. Your friend is going through a phase where she things it's cool to be a s**t and she is not going to listen to you when you point this out to her. She has to learn for herself that no one likes or respects a s**t. You can try talking to her but it is not going to change her, she has to learn on her on and be willing to change before she can overcome this phase in her life. Just focus on school and your other friends who you still have respect for.

Answer 13

ooh guess what my best friends a ***** too... what did you learn?

it doesnt matter how long you have known someone - you can never REALLY trust another human being. everybody stabs you in the back at one point...

believe me... harsh truth of this world.

Answer 14

People change. You cannot change her. Let her be who she is. If this is someone you don't like anymore, accept it and move on. She wants to be different, and she may be wanting to hang out with the wrong crowd but that's her lesson to learn. You can tell her you think she's changing for the worst, but that's all you can really do. You haven't been friends that long. You can deal with the loss. If this was college, I would feel bad for you. That's a long time to trust someone only to see her change like this girl has. Don't worry about her copying you. She probably doesn't know who she really is and you should hope that she finds her true self before she leaves high school. Just enjoy your time in high school and don't cause any drama. Hang out with the ones you wanna hang out with and just find yourself like she's doing. I know it sucks to lose a friend. I've been there. But you just need to live your life and if it means doing this without her, then you'll have to do it like that. You should find new friends and just focus on being good and you'll eventually get over it and be in a better place. Trying to change her will probably just make her your enemy and I promise you do not want one of those. If you already have one, don't add to it.

Answer 15

why are you changing her... you trying to change too.... you just said you had a haircut.... its about change.... if its meant to be... you all will be friends again... see what her friends are actually about... dont assume anything about them because they may not be what you think they are

Answer 16

almost the same thing happened to me.

the sad part is that you probably won't be able to change her, but you can try talking to her and say how you feel like you're growing apart.

it's best to do this in person.

but you should also remember that sometimes friends grow apart.

i know it hurts, but surround yourself with people you love and who love you back, and you'll be okay

Answer 17

you shoulld try talking to her about it indirectly by saying something like 'so many girls nowadays are becoming soandso.. i hope we never turn into one of them' .. i hope it helps :)