My friend is bi. Am I terrible for feeling uncomfortable having a sleepover with her?

Question

One of my friend's is bi, she's been with girls and has done tons of stuff with them. Her and I hang out alot, we're good friends so it's cool -but she suggested we have a sleepover, and i'm not too sure about that. I know she wouldn't come onto me or anything, but i'm still just not comfortable with it. I'm so sorry for saying that, I honestly feel awful for feeling this way.. but thats just how I feel, I can't help/control it. I can't talk to her about it, cause I know she'd feel really offended. What am I supposed to do?

Answer 1

Have someone else come sleep over too.

Or make up an excuse like your parents won't let you or something.

Answer 2

No it isn't bad just tell her why she isn't invitied. You are to provide comfort to everyone and if they are not comfortable or if your not comfortable then she will not be either.  

Answer 3

this is a tough one.  Does she know you aren't interested in any way in having a relationship with girls?

If so have a sleep over some time but invite a few girls and make it sort of a "pajama party".. that's a subtle hint that you enjoy her as a friend but  don't have a desire to take it any further.  good luck!

Answer 4

It is OK for you to feel uncomfortable and do not ever do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable

Although, I think that you have nothing to worry about if you know she would not come onto you or do any sexual acts in front of you.

Is she talking just you and her sleep over?

Why do you have to sleep over, why not just hang out.

How old are you? You sound very young when you say "sleep over"

I say, do not go. Tell her you can't make it. If she wants to know why, then tell her the truth. You have to be truthful about this, unless you feel comfortable making up an excuse, which I think is fine also.

My main point is, if you began doing things you do not feel comfortable about, this is not a healthy behavior.

Just don't do it to satisfy someone else.

Answer 5

tell her how you feel  

Answer 6

You've already gotten some pretty terrific advice, but let me assure you that you can't help how you feel, you are not a terrible person. Just be honest with your friend, a real friend will understand.  

Answer 7

be honest and tell her what you told us, it makes you uncomfortable.

keep us informed via this msg board.

Answer 8

Be honest, and tell her exactly how you feel, ( just as you did in this mail ). If she is REALLY your friend, she will understand,and will let you know she wont "hit" on you, and you can still be good friends. Honesty, and communication  !!!

Answer 9

just tell her the truth.

Answer 10

If you honestly dont think that she is going to come on to you or anything than you really dont have anything to worry about. But by the same note would you feel uncomfortable spending the night with a guy. Even if you knew that he wouldnt comeon to you. If you feel like things could happen and you just dont want to open the door to that just dont ever have a sleepover alone with her. Your feelings are normal. No you shouldnt talk to her about it becuase it will only amke her defensive.