My friend is cutting herself how can i help her?

Question

so my friend os cutting herself because of prevent life experiences, and she asked me to help her, and i have no clue what do say, like i used to but i stopped, and it was just like a reaction, i didn't have help or anything, so i have no clue what to say to her.

Answer 1

Help her through it, tell her parents and call some sort of help line because if you cut yourself that is serious and can lead to accidental/attempted/full-on suicide.

Answer 2

Self mutilation is a cry for help.

Tell her she needs professional help, proper meds, and counseling.  If she can't afford it, there is almost always a no fee-medical assistance program in the local community.

This is WAY beyond your abiliy to resolve.  Talk to a school counselor, or a local social worker, for a means to get her to the medical help she needs.  Look in the yellow pages under Mental health for some ideas of who to call.

I'm assuming her parents know of this?  If not, that's the first step.

Answer 3

Cutting yourself is stupid, actually it's BEYOND stupid, That is just one step away from suicide, accidental suicide too. Cutting yourself and suicide is just retarded, I usually like to sympathize with people who are generally suicidal or a harm to themselves but i've come to realize that they are just ultimately DUMB.  No matter how bad it gets, there is no reason to take your life your hurt yourself. Tell someone quickly especially if you know it's happening. If something happens to her and she dies from cutting herself your gonna feel guilty, do something before that happens.

Answer 4

Slap her in the face and call her stupid !!! Then take her to the hospital so they can put her on the second floor and dope her up with anti crazy pills

Answer 5

bring her to physical.

Answer 6

Try to talk to her about it and usually when people cut themselves its a cry for attention. I had friends who cut themselves for a reason and they cut themselves for experimentation or to relieve themselves of the pain inside. You should talk to her and ask her what is wrong and why she does it, she'll probably tell you she doesnt know why she does it, but ask her about her life, its usually linked to that.

Just try to be as supportive as you can and tell her you are always there for her if she needs to talk or anything.

Answer 7

First tell her your very concerned then if that doesnt work then try to hide all her sharp objects.

Answer 8

What I've learned from most people that I know that do cutting only do it for the attention. That is most people, not all. The ones that hide it are the ones with the real problems. Maybe you should talk to her parents if they are cool and won't jump her case about it so they can get her to a counselor of some kind. I understand that some parents just aren't going to be understanding no matter what so maybe you should take her to the school counselor. Go together if you believe that she really has an issue here. You can be by her side which will make her feel more secure talking about it. However you should know that a school counselor will more than likely tell her parent's anyway so you might just want to take that avenue to begin with.  

Answer 9

Tell her parents she might get mad and you might not be friends anymore but that the risk you take when trying to save someone from harming theirselves.

Answer 10

You need to talk to her with your school councelor or a trusted adult. I was in the same boat before, I tried commiting suicide, and my friend told the councelor, and I was sooooo mad, but in the end she saved my life, and if she is really your friend, she will love you in the end for helping her.

Goodluck. :)

Answer 11

tell her parents, your parents, or a school counselor or something.

Answer 12

The best advice I can give you is to support your friend as much as you can. Try not to encourage her, but respect her right to express herself as well. It may be her coping mechanism or it may be a cry for help. It's difficult to tell sometimes, but, if you offer regular support and advice to her when she needs it, it may prevent more serious methods of self harm from occuring.

Cutting does not always lead to a suicide attempt. Sometimes it can make the person feel better about a situation they find hard to deal with.

In my experience, someone freaking out about my cutting habits and trying to get me to stop by taking away all sharp objects from me made me feel like a nut job.

Self harm has somewhat of a bad image and many people who do not understand what it is can sometimes be cruel and call it attention seeking.

All you can really do is offer her emotional support as a friend should do. Listen to her and offer her any advice you can give.

Her doctor may be able to give her advice and information but try not to push her to get help.

She may feel better after talking to you, or she may still feel the need to self harm. Whatever her decision, make sure she knows that you will be there to support her all the way.

My advice may not be what you are looking for, but I havn't been in the situation you are in now, I was the one who needed help.

Still, I wish you the best of luck and hope your friend pulls through =)

(p.s. I hope your friend is treating her scars with an anti-septic cream or wash to prevent infection.)

Answer 13

Talk her out of doing it

Tell her what can happen if she keeps on

Ask her to stop

Tell her to throw away what ever shes cutting herself with

Tell her if she feels the need to cut to do something else so she wont do it

Answer 14

If your friend wants to cut herself, then that is a serious problem. She certainly has some issues that need to be resolved. Convince her to see a psychologist or a guidance counselor. Don't be afraid to seek professional help. They are expert when it comes to these things. If she wants to make her life better, then she should definitely get some professional help. Tell her not to lose hope, things will surely get better as long as she's willing to change for the better.

As they say, "Every cloud has a silver lining."

Answer 15

There is nothing you can do to stop her.  You can not control someone else's actions.  The only thing you can do is try to find someone who can.  You can talk until you are blue in the face but when someone has that bad of an issue, they need professional help.  If she is that suicidal, then her parents can get her admitted to a hospital because of the harm she is doing to herself and at the hospital she will get the treatment and help she needs.

Answer 16

self harm is done for a reason and low self esteem could be the root, but please don't let this go on, try to support her and tell her how you got over this. If this does not work you will have to try to get help for her but be discreet and find a professional who will not cause her any embarrassment with her family & friends.

Answer 17

If you're back in school already, talk to a counselor about her. If not, talk to a parent or another trusted adult. They'll get her the help she needs.