My friend is going to tell my parents I shoplifted! HELP?

Question

So I was shopping today at pacsun and as usual I didn’t have the money to buy something awesome so I got three amazing tops and put them in my jacket. But my friend was there too and I didn’t know at first so I walked out and as usual the censer didn’t ring. So I got home and my bitchy friend called and said she’s going to tell my parents I shoplifted and I can’t believe her a** is so f****** mean I mean I’m her friend but she’s going to tell my parents. I’m scared because then my parents are going to spank me hard. Probably 5 times with a belt. Normally when I do something “stupid,” they hit me three times really hard but this time it may be even 6 times. I’m really scared because they always make me cry and my dad does it. Anyway, I have never done anything wrong to my friend it’s just that she’s such a goody kid and it make me f****** sick to see her act this way towards me. I feel like I want to get her and fight her so I could beat her a** and teach her a lesson not to snitch on my a**. F****** b****. How do I convince her not to tell my parents? What should I do?

Answer 1

Hey, i was quite distraught after reading this, it sounds to me your friend is just going to tell your parents so she looks good to her own parents, showing them that she is a good person, which she's not.

What you did was wrong, but people learn from their mistakes, instead of your friend telling your parents, you should do it, i know it sounds crazy but its the best way, explain to them your feelings and that you didn't mean too, and you will not do it again, and it also leaves your friend looking a fool if she tells them, being open and honest to your parents is always the right thing, as they can understand better, and may prevent you from being "spanked" as you described.

Ask Phoebe.

Answer 2

get some dirt on her and threaten to tell her parents. even if  u make it up. make it believable. fight dirt with dirt

Answer 3

Well, first of all, it was really wrong of you to shoplift. You shouldn't have done that. And your friend probably didn't expect you to do that, you know? Because she knows that can get you into trouble, as well as the fact that you don't need to do it. She's probably worried with what you're doing, and you should be appreciative of that.

I'm sorry that if she does tell your parents, they're going to get violent towards you. I don't think it'll probably help much if you're old enough to steal things.

Maybe the only way for her to not tell them is if you go to the shop and return the things you took. Tell her you understood it was wrong, that it was a mistake from you, and that you'll take care of the situation. And not do it again. Talk to her about it, tell her why you did it, let her know and let her advise you too, because it sounds like she will.

If you don't think what you did was wrong (and honestly you don't seem to), however, maybe your parents do need to know.

Answer 4

My friend did the same thing to me, and yes, I was going to tell her parents. Your friend is probably worried because she could get in trouble too even if she didn't shoplift because she was with you. Call your friend, tell her to go to the mall with you, and just put the stuff back.

No one will be the wiser.

AND DON'T EVER SHOPLIFT AGAIN!!!

Answer 5

You don't convince her. Learn from your mistake. I think she is being a good friend in pointing out that this wasn't a good idea. If you keep shoplifting, you're eventually going to get caught. And possibly get a more severe punishment.

Also, you might want to talk to your school counselor about what you wrote. Sounds to me like the shoplifting isn't just about not having the money.

Answer 6

Good.

That is what friend's are for huh?

What you did was wring and illegal.

If you get away with it you will think it is right to do it again because you will think you are indispensable.

Guess what? Your not!

Answer 7

Your friend is being a good friend, by asking you to live up to your potential.  You are capable of being honest and honorable, so as your friend she has every right to intervene when you doing something dishonest and dishonorable like stealing.  Don't blame her for YOUR bad choices.

Stop being selfish and immature.  Recognize that you did something wrong, and fix it.  Take the shirts back, and leave them at the store.  You don't have to confess to the store, but you do have to return the items - simply wanting them doesn't give you any right of ownership to them.

Then, confess to your parents yourself, before your friend does.  Admit that you made a mistake, and have already corrected it.  Suggest what you feel is an appropriate punishment - belting has only taught you to fear your parents, not that your actions were wrong, so suggest that you do volunteer work or other unpaid work or give up an item you care about.

Answer 8

i think one of you needs different friends. real friends hold similar values and expectations for behavior, especially when your actions could be deleterious to their reputation as well. tmm  

Answer 9

just say no i didnt and then pull te sirt out of your bag and say omg!!!! she said was buying this but she put in my bag!!!! call her mom

Answer 10

What are your parents name I will tell them. You are being such a brat. You don't take something that does not belong to you. You little thief I hope you end up in one of those boot camps for trouble makers. Thief! You will never amount to anything but an inmate at a maximum security prison.

Answer 11

deny it and don't talk to her tell your parents your mad at her and you are fighting GOOD LUCK!! ^_^

Answer 12

I'm on your side and i'm here to help you, not  give bad advice.

First off tell your friend what your parents will do to you if they find out.  Next, explain to her that pac sun is way overpriced and they charge too much and have been ripping ppl off for ages and turnabout is fair play.  I might even suggest telling some authorities that your parents beat you, seeing as that is illegal in most areas i know of.  

Answer 13

Okay, so let me get this straight. "You" steal some things from a store, and your friend is wrong for telling your parents, and your parents are wrong for punishing you? Hmm...there is something very

WRONG about your way of thinking. What you are saying here is that if your friend was "really" your friend, she would ignore the fact that stealing is wrong, and your parents should ignore this fact also? Okay,

so later down the road, if you own a cute little boutique which you have worked very hard to keep it going, and some girl comes into your shop and "steals" from "YOU", is it okay to just let her take the items, or would you want her to be punished? I don't expect an answer, just ask yourself this question. And if you are honest with yourself, YOU'LL go to your parents and tell them what you did. Good luck to you.

Answer 14

You need to get told on. Do you realize that shoplifting is an addiction in itself. I say if she tells and you get your *** beat, maybe you will think about not doing it again.  One of these times you will get caught and your parents are going to find out anyways.  It has nothing to do with being a goody two shoes, if you had been caught today, she would have probably been pulled to the side with your *** and suffered much embarassment for having done nothing wrong.  

Answer 15

I have an idea. You may not like it but oh well. What you can do is call your friend to come over and go to the mall with her. Make her a deal, tell her that you will go to the store and put them back and that you will never do it again: But only if she promises not to tell your parents. Then go with her and put them back. Then go back later w/o her and steal it again.  

Answer 16

omg! what is your problem! you cant just shoplift! i hope she tells your paretns and that yo. get in HUGE trouble  

Answer 17

Im not gonna say how you can convince her because your friend is the one that is doing the right thing. You did something wrong. And its better for you to be disciplined now than go to jail later because it got out of hand. Be glad you have a friend who is looking out for your well being. Not all people are lucky enough to have that. If your that worried then fess up to them now because you'll get it worse if they find out by someone else. You have a good friend. She wants you to do good. Her telling your parents is a smart thing whether you like it or not.