My friend is going to tell someone about my self injury!?

Question

I don't want her to! My parents already know. They don't care and she is threatening to tell someone right as I'm getting better and finally was able to stop she brings all my feelings back!! HELP!

Answer 1

Since your parents don't care, she might just be a real friend to you.

Answer 2

If you don't care, and your family doesn't care, then your friend is much more of a friend than you give her credit for. She's doing the right thing. Someone needs to know so you can get the help you need. If you ever come to your senses, you'll realize what a great friend you have.

Answer 3

Do you want to get better?  She is trying, in her own way, to save her friend from hurting herself.  She's a wonderful friend, and you are trying to argue with her.  Having said all this, why don't you ask her for help?

Answer 4

Yup-Yup,Where is all this coming from then?  You must understand she is just doing this for your own good.  She doesn't want to see you hurt yourself again.  Something must have triggered this.  You just don't start hurting yourself for no reason.  If your parents love you,They will not and I mean not do this to you.  They will stick together and help you with this problem of yours.  Yes,I understand that you are getting help.  But hon,Sometimes something like this has a way of coming back when we don't want it to.  If you can pinpoint when this started,Maybe we can find a way to end it altogether.  Why do you feel that your parents will seperate?  Babe,Parents shouldn't seperate because of this.  This should bring them together and make their love stronger.  You are their beautiful daughter.  This friend isn't a bad person.  She is just doing this out of love for you.  Trust me,She has the best of intentions.  Have you thought about going out and finding a hobby?  Do you have a bf?  They can help as well.  They can help you in times of need.  Even if you wouldn't mind a complete stranger like myself to help you.  I'd be so honored to cheer you up from time to time.  You are a pretty,Pretty girl.  Why would you want to hurt yourself so?  What's going on in this world that could make you so sad,So violent?  Hon,You aren't screwed up,You are just misunderstood and confused at the moment.  If I can help in any way,You let me know,Alright?  The name is David and it's been a pleasure writing you tonight.  You have a goodnight and I'll be praying for you.  Bye for now.  

Answer 5

Well if you're positive that you are getting better than I would see where you are coming from. However, in any other case your friend would be looking out for your safety by reporting to an authority figure and I would be glad, because self injury is a cry for help and she would be looking out for your safety.  

Answer 6

I would bet that she's doing it because she cares about you, and she doesn't know what else to do.  I've sorta been there before.  Is she a really good friend?  And if you're already getting help, who or what is she going to tell???   Be honest with yourself -- are you REALLY getting help?  If yes, then the best thing to do is to talk to her, and to tell her about what you're doing to get help.  

As for your parents, I bet they care more than you think they do.  And if they split up over this, it's NOT your fault. I would guess that this behavior of yours means that you need more attention.  If they can't give it to you, that's not automatically YOUR fault.  I'm not a psychologist, and obviously I don't know the whole story, but it's important that you understand that you can't control their behavior, any more than they can control yours.  Even if your friend DOES somehow make this public, how your parents react to it is completely up to them.  You're not responsible for that.  The only thing you're responsible for is your OWN behavior -- that's the only thing you can control.

Focus your attention on getting better.  Be glad you've got a friend who cares so much about you.  And next time you want to hurt yourself...  wait until tomorrow.  

Answer 7

Most female cutters stop at age nineteen and realize the o****m from cutting is screwed up. You will eventually have to deal with depression again.

Answer 8

listen, you need help. i would know. i was about 2cm from killing myself due to cutting. i've been to three hospitals. it's not fun always crying and cutting or whatever you do. your parents should kill. do this for yourself. if you want to email me you can. [e-mail]

Answer 9

Please get the help you need.  Your friend probably is very concerned about you.

Your family may also need help from a competent therapist.   I hope they agree to it.  But if they don't, you still have needs yourself.  And it is not your fault if they fight; you did not cause it.  Your parents are adults and have some responsibility to get help if they are fighting,

The therapist may be able to help you cope with the fighting in the family and discuss ways of reducing its impact on you.

Answer 10

Well, it's a good thing she's telling on you! I think you need to see a therapist because hurting yourself is just a few steps from suicide! And if your parents don't care about this, then obviously they need to come with you because they have emotional constipation and need to seek help for having apathy that their own child is hurting herself! That's low!

Answer 11

stop hurting yourself.

it doesn't help anyone and if you die, then you just hurt everyone who loves you.

believe me, someone loves you.

Answer 12

clearly shes not a friend...

Answer 13

Explain to her that if she was a real friend that she will not tell anyone as long as you promise not to continue. SHe does not seeem like a real friend to me. BUt if she is a real friend, she will agree to your terms as long as you see a school therapist.