My friend is in jail...need advice

Question

met up with a friend and we went out to a bar (like an 1.5 hrs from my house). Well close to two and they called last call...so I told my friend we had to go. She was sitting on some guys lap across the room and had been acting S****y bouncing around all night. She said wait and then when they turned on the lights, I said "we have to go". She got pissed and wanted to stay with this guy. I said "you don't even know him, and he's gross." His female friend over heard it and got in my face...my friend started yelling with her, at me. So I told her it was her last chance to go home with me. She kept yelling about how I was bringing her down and she wanted to stay... so I gave her her keys and wallet...(which I held while she gave lapdances)...and left. So now I was lost and had my sister come get me...well it turns out the guy she was all over wouldn't take her home...she wanted us(sister and I) to drive back an hour and get her. I didn't and she got arrested after her husband called the police on her in the morning. She ended up being on probabtion and is now sitting in jail w/ 1000 bond. I feel horrible but at the time I felt she was being direspectful and left her. Now her parents want me to help post her bail. I feel bad, but I don't really think it's entirely my fault. Any suggestions

Answer 1

You didn't say why her husband called the police on her.  but it's not your responsibility to help post bond.  She's suppose to be an adult, not to mention where is her respect and loyalty for her husband.  She's got some problems if she thinks that it's okay to be giving other men lap dances.  She had her chance to go home with you and she chose not to therefore, she made her bed and now she's got to lie in it.

Answer 2

please.......... u can't help their daughter has no self control..... it is not ur fault at all.... you gave her some chances to go home with you..... my advice..... let it go... if she is old enough to get into a bar shes old enough to make her own choices..... (even if she was intoxicated)

Answer 3

Yeah pay do not make excuses for leaving your friend clearly she was drunk and u should have called her a cab and took the keys right now u are feeling very guilty and u should just help pay the fine and make this your last time hanging out with her when she is drinking because neither one of u are responsible and yes she is wrong also but let this be a valuable lesson to u!

Answer 4

Story doesn't add up. Cant be "ended up on probie" right after arrested - you need a conviction. 1,000 bond for what - what was she arrested for ? 1,000 bond is usually required for a 10,000 bail, which is a pretty heavy hit.

Answer 5

It's not your fault that your friend is in jail.  You didn't put her there, obviously, that's where she wanted to be.  You were more than a friend to tell her to leave with you.  Her family should be the ones to get her out of jail not you.  Times are to hard to throw your money away like that especially when the situation could have all been avoided. It's o.k. to go out and have a good time but you don't have to give lap dances to men you don't know especially for free.  The dances had to have been free since she couldn't get home.  It's her fault not yours.  Good luck and choose your friends carefully.

Answer 6

She's obviously a big, grown-up girl.  Leave it to her parents and husband, you tried to help and did all you could, to no avail.  What did she get arrested for?  Most times, by me, they "I Bond" (no cash, just her signature) people out after fingerprints clear.

Answer 7

Yeah, make sure that you rub it in your friend's face that she was acting like a jerk and the next time she's drinking, don't be near her.  

Answer 8

It's absolutely not your fault. Why should you help post bail?  You're not responsible for her choices.

Why did her husband call the police? What did she get arrested for?  Did she attack him? What on earth would that have to do with you?

Answer 9

It is sooo not your fault. You did nothing wrong. You told her you were leaving she didnt want to leave you left. Nothing wrong about that. And you dont need to give her or her parents anything to help her post bond.  

Answer 10

It wasn't your fault at all, and you don't have to pay her bond.  You didn't force her to get all drunked up and act like a ho, did you?  You told her more than once you were ready to leave.

I wouldn't even talk to her again... she sounds like a very selfish and vindictive person.

It's her fault... she's the one in jail, not you.

Answer 11

let her rot in jail.  for 1 thing,  she shouldn't have taken that other girls side and yelled at you with her. that was f-ing rude.  for 2, the ****** is married and shouldn't have been giving lapdances. none of it is your fault, dont put up any money to help. she's not a very good friend to you obviously. get over your guilt.