My friend is not the same?

Question

I've been friends with this girl for around 7 years now and we've always been really close - until both our families went on a holiday together at the same time to the same place. I noticed that she was being really shallow and pathetic - asking people to rate who was prettiest out of all the girls - and one of them said she was. now we're back all she talks about is how this boy said she was the prettiest and how fabulous she is - also we have a huuge mirror in our hall and she constantly runs down to check her hair and poof it up some more with the hairspray she has in her bag.

The question is what should i do? should i not be close to her anymore or should i try to salvage the friendship

Answer 1

I think you answered it with your question. She isn't the same. People change, their interests change, maybe now she's really into herself  and likes that the world revolved around her. Maybe that's just the superficial part, maybe she has more to her. Who knows, bottom line is, do you still have anything in common, or just the fact that you know her for so long? If you still share common interests, then yes, keep the friendship and accept her behavior even though it's annoying, but it's harmless to you. If you have nothing to talk about, then what's the point? Find true friends, friends that are there for each other and not egomaniacs.

Answer 2

well first of all it sounds like what one of my not so close friend is doing. and if you don't think it b/c of a confidence boost than just do what you feel is write. it really ain't fare to you or her if you let some people on line tell you what to do. although if it were me i would said bye bye already and just been close friends  hope this is helpful

Answer 3

Hey maybe she just had a little confidence boost, maybe she has never had soo much attention b4.

It will fade off a bit, dnt worry shel be back to normal in a bit.

Just let her enjoy this confindence boost

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Answer 4

I would say it is annoying I have a friend who does something similar.  Especially if a guy shows attention to her she applys makeup every 10 minutes and it takes her an hour or more to get ready to go out.  It feels uncomfortable to me but I try to ignore it as best as I can.  Maybe the best thing to do is not go on holiday with her again as I would think she might act the same way.

Answer 5

I think that if you were a true friend you would talk to her about it, she will deny it at first. Tell her that she has changed, and that she is nto the person she used to be, and the person you liked. It all depends on what she thinks is most important; looks, or friendship.

Good Luck

Answer 6

This happened to me too.You have to salvage this friendship.Let her do this things,you maybe will thing that the only way is to not be close to her but it's wrong.I thinked this too,but my friend had changed and the better way is to salvage friendship

  

Answer 7

You don't know someone until you have lived with them.  During the holiday, out of your own usual surroundings, you have been able to stand back and look at her really close up and you don't like what you see.  She may feel similarly about you.  It's all part of growing up.  Childhood friends don't always stay close all their lives.  Some do, most don't.  What do YOU want to do?  OK, she's vain and you aren't.  Is that a reason for dumping her?  I would concentrate on yourself if I were you and gradually loosen your ties with her.  There's no reason for a big bust up.  Sounds like you are growing apart anyway so you can still be friends but maybe not 'best' friends.

Answer 8

u r problem is like jaane tu ya jaane na ......i think u r in love with her  

Answer 9

friendship is a two way street, she seems to be too into herself to realize she's making you feel uncomfortable. have you talked to her at all about it? if i were you, i'd try to because friends are hard to come by. if she doesn't change then she's not considering your feelings and is not worth having as a friend. time changes people, sometimes for the better, sometimes for worse. people don't always click like they did when they were 7 or 8.  

Answer 10

Well, work on yourself. Find better friends who are more interrested in others. She sounds self centered, dump her.