My friend isnt always very good around horses PLEASE HELP!!?

Question

so my friend comes over and we ride our horses together almost everyday but somtimes its like she doesnt think at all

here r some things shes done recently

1. i asked her for a brush when i was getting her horse ready and she tossed it to me!! and missed and hit the horse in the head!!!

2. if there is a fly on the horse she tries to get it off and whacks them in the face and im just afraid she might scare the horse one day

3. she borrowed flyspray and left it on the ground in theyre pasture and she left the horses halter on the ground in her stall

also shes been riding for a year but isnt very good because she learned everything wrong so should i try to help her,cuz somtimes the horse will trot when she wants her to walk and she barely does anything =[ and i dont want her teaching my horse to push people around,so should i try to help her or will she think im being bossy,im not that good of a rider but im getting lessons so i know a little more then her about getting horses to

Answer 1

when you ask her to do something, be more careful. for example, instead of asking for the brush, maybe say 'pass me the brush. careful, dont throw it'. it might also be a good idea to try to get her into lessons if she isn't already.

Answer 2

every time she does something irresponsible like leaving a halter in the stall, explain the dangers of it like the horse getting tangled in it and falling over or getting seroisly injured. You might have to kind of follow her around for a little bit like a babysitter and check on what she's doing. If she swats her horse in the face explain to her that horses don't really enjoy that and show her how she sould do it.

Answer 3

Sounds like she needs to take lessons from an instructor.  You're her friend, but she needs somebody who's able to set ground rules for her, because apparently you can't.

You might suggest that the two of you take lessons at a neighboring stable together and you can have somebody watching your equitation and she can get some critizing from somebody who's not her friend.

Answer 4

Maybe you should tell her to read this! If she is a good friend, she will understand and ask you for advice. If on the other hand she cant be bothered to change her ways, stop her from riding your horses.

Answer 5

Let her know how uncomfortable you feel with her behaviour.

Or maybe just 'accidentally' slip her the link to this question...

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Oh, you could send her out to my place. My dad is really strict with behaviour around the horses. If she threw a brush, man, my dad would be yelling at her so quick, she wouldn't have time to say 'concussion'.

Answer 6

I completely understand your concern and you are right to worry. If she continues to ride your horse wrong, your horse WILL pick up nasty habits that will then need to be treated. It's not fun at all!!! And, if your horse finds what she is doing to be too annoying, it could give that horse a bad attitude towards being ridden in general.

I'm sure she ia a great friend and wonderful to hang out with, but it also sounds like she has a lack of respect for your things and she is careless and clueless about horse behavior. Both expensive and dangerous!

The way I see it, it is your barn and your horses, which makes you the boss. I' sure you don't want a confrontation with your friend, but what she is doing is not only annoying, but dangerous (As you know). So being passive may not be the best idea.

I would tell her that though you love to ride with her and consider her a great friend, she needs to respect you and follow your rules. Explain to her that they are for the horses saftey and that you are not trying to boss her around. You could tell her that these rules you have established are a direct result of what you have learned from your professional trainer, so you know they are very important. If she bulks or laughs or leaves in a huff, perhaps she is not mature enough to handle the responsibilies that come with being around horses.

Best of luck!

Answer 7

I think you should tell her how your feeling, and give her some advise. I don't think she will get too mad (but of course, I don't rlly know her), your just thinking of the safety of your horses, and your friend.

I wish you the best of luck

Answer 8

If this is the SAME girl you have been talking about in thew other questions, then stop picking on her.

Everyones going to do some thing wrong one time or another. Some people are kind of slow when it comes to learning what is right and wrong and whats responsible and whats irresponsible.

You know the answer to your question- help her! Give her advice! If it annoys you so much you have to ask more then a few questions about it then do something.

You obviously know how to ride and take care of a horse. So its good she has you around . Use your common sense and show her.

Not only will you be happy, but she will probably end up being more happy when shes around horses because she knows shes doing something right

Good Luck.

Sorry if I was rude.

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Answer 9

just dont let her.

it keeps her and the horses safe.

Answer 10

I would just tell her to be careful around the horses...........lay down what she should and shouldn't do..............don't tell her she is doing a bad job though.........then you guys would end up in a fight! Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Answer 11

You should give her some help and adivce because horses are big! They could really injure your friend if for some reason she scared or pissed it off. Try not to sound too bossy, but explain to your friend that its dangerous to not take pre cautions with animals. They have instincts and don't have the idea to stifle those instincts.

Answer 12

Tell her to get lessons. If she still laughs it off and is being a general a**hole (sorry) around your horses, tell her to smarten up or your not riding with her anymore...that she's irresponsible and is going to get hurt. Or, send her to my barn! If she did that to any of the horses at my barn she would have a concussion quicker than she could blink.