My friend needs help... I don't know what to say though.?

Question

okay I have a question. One of my friends is only 14 and she is getting drunk at least once a weekend and usually she is just alone in her room when she gets drunk and tonight she called me all excited because she went to a party and got to smoke. What all she is doing to herself is really not healthy. One of her actual goals is to get pregnant before she gets out of high school...

Well I have been talking to her about it and telling her my opinion and just telling her that what she is doing might hurt her in the long run but she just blows it off like its no big deal.

I am really concerned about her nad want to help her but i live 300+ miles away from her so I can't exactly just go talk to her in person. Someone told me that I should tell her parents but they are kinda the reasin she drink's all the time so really they wouldn't help the situation. I have an e-mail address of the person she confides in and trusts and I really feel like it has gotten to the point where I need to put that e-mail address to use, I just don;t know what I should say and was wondering if you had any suggestions.

Answer 1

try contacting that person that she confides in , because thia sounds very serious, in fact it is.someone has got to get through to her. believe me everyone knows what has been going on they are just in denial. so please contact that person that she knows, someone has got to listen, maybe a school counselor, but let it be someone you trust. contact that person and tell them what is going on. and good luck, may god bless you

Answer 2

If you really, really care about that person whom you call friend,  and she is on the edge of throwing her life away for her new addiction, then i urge you to go see her in person and talk and listen to her. May be part of the reason why she is doing all this is not having a sincere friend around who can watch out for her. 300 miles should not come b/w friend helping another friend...Or  you may choose to do nothing and keep seeing her going all the way to the bottom. Choice is yours.

Answer 3

Wow sound like your friend really needs help and i think its really great that you want to help her but in your situation it will be hard.

Firstly why is it that her parents are the people causing her to do terrible things? You need to keep trying to get her to understand how bad the things she is doing are and if you have a school counciler on another trusted friend or adult she might listen to then tell them. i think you should use that email address its for your friends sake good luck!

Answer 4

I am unfortunatly pretty much always in this situation with different people at different times. She is not going to listen to you...so as horrible and hard as this sounds...you should just stop trying to get her to stop drinking. Put that email address to good use and email this person, although I'm sure this person already knows about this if she confides in her most. You really just need to support her when she realizes shes making a mistake. The most you can really do to help her realize this is ask her why she wants to do his or why she feels the need to do this.

Answer 5

You have just started helping your friend, but first dig out the real problem. What is it that caused her to behave the way she does. Once you get in to it, find your support group. The email address you mentioned might be of help. Find more reliable people who could counsel your friend even if you are 300 miles away from her. It's more likely that the parents need counseling too.  Your friend is very lucky she got you. Some real friends are very rare.