My friend says she was raped...but her story is a little fishy to me. What do you think?

Question

My friend (who is 13 years old) jokes about things, so I don't know if this is one of them. Anywho here's her story:

She was playing a drinking game with her sister, sisters friend and her sisters boyfriend. She got drunk and passed out. Then she woke up because felt her sister's boyfriend on her, she tried screaming but he covered her face up. The fishy thing is that her sister's boyfriend (like 8 years older than my friend) lives with my friends family. So why would someone who lives with her rape her? Also, I thought that you couldn't wake up if you feel something when you are out cold. The boyfriend isn't really a creep (I've met him before) but why would someone take the chance of getting another girl (who he knows and dates the sister) pregnant when she is 8 years younger. Does this sound weird to you? Or just me?

Answer 1

what is she doing playing a drinking game at 13?  Well, someone needs to alert her parents one way or the other.  If it is a joke, then shame on her.  And if it isnt, the parents need to get involved

Answer 2

Sounds weird to me only because I know from experience how 13 year old girls can be. She may have an extreme crush on her and he may have turned her down and now she is trying to make up a story that he raped and impregnated her. I've heard of this type of thing happening before. Just talk to your friend and let her know how serious an accusation of rape really is and the consequences of it. If she still insists she was raped, encourage her to go to her parents or the police.  

Answer 3

Simple, tell her mother. If its a lie, the truth will come out, and if its the truth, then this man need to be in jail.

Answer 4

does she seem really sad and bothered by it?

if so then shes telling the truth

if she isnt reallyy

and if she is acting like her normal self shes lying

Answer 5

she sounds like a attention seeker to me.she probaly fancies the boy or she jealous of her sister.call her bluff tell her you have talked to youre mom and she says you have to tell her mom.so she can sort the problem out if he lives there he will have to go.bet if you said this to her she will change her tune.if she was my childrens friend and she does make up terrible stories like this i would ban them from being her friend.you just dont know what she could say next.her next story could involve you.so please talk to youre mom.

Answer 6

I think its true

Answer 7

i can't really tell. if it was true, she would have called the police or something after the incident.

and you say that why would someone who lives with her rape her?

umm, men's s*x drive can't be controlled ya know?

ever heard of brothers raping their sisters or fathers raping their own daughters? uhh, yeuhh, it happens.. A LOT.

oh and your friend might have actually provoked the rapist by flirting and acting all woman-ish.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, it is possible that this happened. Also unfortunately, it is possible that it did not happen (I mean unfortunately because in the case that she is lying - she is falsely accusing somebody of something extremely serious). The only way you will ever know for sure is if she admits to lying, or if he admits to doing it. Have you encouraged her to report the rape? Definitely encourage her to report it. Maybe if you push enough, she would admit that she was just joking. Or maybe she will go ahead and report it - in which case, hopefully she was not lying... you could even bypass her completely and go ahead with telling a trusted adult yourself. Better to be safe than sorry, right? If this did happen, that guy needs to be caught before he hurts even more people, possibly even her again.

BTW even if you pass out from drinking too much, it is entirely possible to wake up a short time later, especially to something like that. What was your 13 year old friend doing drinking anyways, let alone with a 21 year old boy and, I assume, much older girls as well? In addition to encouraging her to report the rape, I would encourage her to watch what company she keeps. I don't mean that she would be at fault if the story is true (the only person to blame would be HIM), but it is best to keep yourself out of potentially vulnerable situations...and drinking (then passing out), at 13, with kids who are much older than you, is definitely a vulnerable situation.

Answer 9

Either your friend was raped or she is a lying sack of c**p. I hope she's a liar.

WTF!!!!! Is she doing getting bombed up? Where are the parents and how stupid were those other people being? And we're expected to believe that she's out cold, but miraculously wakes up, but no one else notices the commotion? C'mon.

If she was raped, don't you think she'd be a bit more upset? Wouldn't she have lost her virginity (ok, well maybe not these days), and be fearful of pregnancy? Wouldn't she tell her sister??

I'd tell her, listen, if this is true, you need help now. YOU tell or I will. Then the truth will come out. tell her, you may be mad, but it's the best thing--your sister can't be with a rapist, you need help, need to be checked.

I'm thinking if this is going on under the parents' noses, she was probably allowed to be a brat growing up and makes c**p up for attention. It's so common.

Answer 10

It could very well be the truth...who are we to doubt something like that...the authoritys should handle this...if she was raped he should pay for it...if not maybe this young lady needs some sort of attention...good luck

Answer 11

tell your friends sister and her mother and then tel them exactly what she told you and the truth shall come out.. and what the h**l? your friend is just dieing for attention. shes lieing and lieing about things that shouldnt and isnt funny..

chooes your friends wisely

Answer 12

I was in the same boat when I was your age.  A friend told me that she had been raped by a guy she met on the internet. Since rape is nothing to play around with, I told a trusted adult (our youth pastor at church) about what she had told me.  Then I left it in his hands.  At my age, I felt like I was in no position to help her the way she needed to be helped, so I told someone who could help her.  He talked to her about it in private and I never really heard the outcome of it.  Since know charges were ever filed or anything like that, I'm sure she confessed to him that it wasn't actually true or just told another lie.  I'm not sure.  I later found out that she was a pathological liar, so.......  I'm no longer friends with that person.

Answer 13

kay you have to tell someone.

different people react differently after being raped so theres no real way to tell if shes lying.

this doesnt sound weird at all

there are some pretty messed up people out there

Answer 14

Unless you have definite proof that your friend is lying, you NEED TO BELIEVE HER, and tell her mom and the POLICE what you know. According to the national center for crime statistics, and the FBI, 80 percent of ALL rapes and sexual assaults are committed by someone the woman or girl knows, and in at least HALF, if not TWO THIRDS of those cases, the attacker is a spouse, a boyfriend, or another close relative. So it's ONLY TOO LIKELY that this boyfriend of your friend's sister attacked her- and he probably thinks that he's gotten away with it, because she's either too scared to say anything, or because she thinks that no one will believe her story. The fact that this guy lives with your friend's family makes what she says EVEN MORE LIKELY to be true, NOT LESS. Your friend NEEDS HELP, and she needs to get it NOW, NOT LATER.

There's also the drug issue here- the drinks were no doubt spiked, most likely with one of the "date rape" drugs, such as Rohypnol, for example, or perhaps something like THB or Ketamine, which are animal tranquilizers. These drugs do have a legitimate use- they are used by vets to calm animals prior to surgery or medical treatment- but they are also very effective at knocking whoever consumes them out. The worst aspect of their use, though, is that they frequently cause amnesia- that is, they leave the victim with no memory of what happened. Actually, your friend probably has no real way of knowing whether or not she was raped- which is all the more reason why she needs to see a doctor and get tested IMMEDIATELY if not sooner. Today's tests are sensitive enough to pick up even trace amounts of date rape drugs, even days or weeks after they were consumed or injected. Your friend needs to be tested for ALL of these drugs, as well as for pregnancy and STD's like AIDS.  

Your friend is also going to need to speak with a counselor or therapist, so she can get some help in dealing with her feelings of shame and of being violated, which she was. Lastly, the police need to be told about what this guy did, so he can be caught and prosecuted for his crime- do you want him to rape another innocent girl, or perhaps come after YOU next time???  If your answer is NO, then you need to get off the computer, and go do the right thing. Tell this girl's mom all that you know, and ask her to call the police and report this crime. Then, when the police arrive, tell them about it.

I hope your friend gets help. She needs it badly, and so do you. You can't handle this alone.  

Answer 15

tell her parents or ask the sister, they'll eventually get the truth out of her, i think shes lieing, if she's that drunk nothings going to wake her up and why was she drinking

Answer 16

The girl who called wolf, shame  

Answer 17

This could be entirely possible.  All rape is weird and doesn't make much sense to normal people.  Why would a parent rape his child?  This is a more difficult situation to comprehend, yet it does happen.  If your friend is lying, that is a very sick and serious subject to lie about.  Ask her if she is seriously telling the truth, and if she is don't doubt her.  She needs help- she needs to tell her parents and sister and if this is true investigations will follow.  You don't want someone like that to get away with rape

Answer 18

who lies about being raped? and its possible to get raped by someone that lives with you.

and if they do they are really stupid and have nothing better to do.

Answer 19

Rapes can happen anywhere with anyone, regardless of age.  It's not just some creepy stranger who grabs you in a dark alley.  It could be anyone, even people you trust.

Just mention to her parents that you think she was raped.  If she's lying, she can only keep it up so long before she is found out.