My friend wants to adopt my baby when its born how do we go about it simply ??

Question

i want to give my baby up to my friend when it is born but we dont want to have to go though to much hassle to do it we both agree on everything but how do we go about it she can not have childern and im unable to keep it but neither of us have the money to got though a lawery and all please help us find a way thank you

Answer 1

To finalize an adoption you need to do many different things.  Your friend will need to complete a home study (all states require this), that will cost about 2000.00 and it takes months to complete.  Then you will have to hire at least one attorney to write up the consent to adopt.  We found that the cheapest is about 1500.00.  There is no way getting around completing this adoption unless these two things are done.  

BUT - the good news is is that there is an adoption credit you can apply for when doing your taxes.  It takes two years to get your first return.  It is kinda tricky how it all works but it is a way of getting the money she spends back.  So if she can get a loan for 4000.00 and have this loan for about 5 years she will be able to pay it off with her tax money.  

My question is if she can't afford to pay for the adoption how can she support a baby?  That is much more expensive than the cost of completing an adoption.

I understand how someone would like to avoid paying agency fees for an adoption, to try to keep the costs down.  We are trying to adopt again as well and are trying to find a mother on our own so we don't have to pay the agency fees.  Our homestudy is complete and we have hired an attorney.  If you are interested in learning more about us see our blog at:

http://gregdeannaella.blogspot.com/

If you have other questions about adoptions feel free to email me.

Deanna

Answer 2

Adoption is a legal proceeding.  You will at least need to contact an attorney (I suggest you both get a separate attorney).  They should be able to direct you in the options available.  Your friend will need to pay certain fees - such as home study, criminal background checks, court fees, etc.  

Unfortunately, every state has their own regulations, so you want to make sure that you do this legally so that nothing causes the adoption to fall through and the state to intervene.  

Good luck to you and what a wonderful gift you are giving your friend!

Answer 3

you probably will have to get yourself a lawyer. all i know is that the birthmothers i know have had to relinquish their rights as a parents through court documents and with witnesses.

can you handle watching your friend raise your child? that'd be diffy for me. glad you found a home for your child though.

Kathy, there is nothing "sad" about choosing to place a child for adoption. it is a selfless act of love for the child. is it difficult to place a child for adoption, yes. but is it sad? from my experience, the joy has FAR outweighed the grief.

Answer 4

I really don't think it's a good idea to have your friend adopt your baby. I would seek counseling about it before doing anything. Let your friend adopt a baby and you can give up your baby for adoption (even an open adoption) but, I think it could likely be a big mistake to "share" your baby with your friend.

Answer 5

You will have to go through an adoption lawyer.  You can have papers drawn up signing your parental rights away (father also has to sign the papers).  The cost for me to do this was around $800 for the total adoption process.  My second husband adopted my two children from my first marriage.  When my ex signed his rights away then my new husband began the process of adoption.  So the cost can range from $800-1,000, but you will have to go through a lawyer and the court to make it legal.

Answer 6

There is no "simple" way to transfer full parental rights...this is purposeful as it is a huge thing and shouldn't be done lightly, or on impulse.

Your friend will have to have a homestudy, either attorneys or an agency will need to file a petition to adopt with the probate court, you will need to sign papers relinquishing your rights, and you should seek independent legal counsel as well as counseling to impart to you the enormity of what you are contemplating and the possible emotional consequences you may experience.

I'm sorry, but it isn't simple, nor should it be. You could perhaps look into a guardianship arrangement instead of an adoption, but I am not sure that involves significantly less "hassle".

Why not drop the whole idea and concentrate on finding resources to help you keep and raise your child? If your friend also has little money, why would she be a better choice of parent than you? There is help out there!

Answer 7

are you really really very very sure that you want to give up your baby? that's too sad... well, if both of you can't hire a lawyer for the adoption papers, i suggest just make a contract, signed by both of you and 2 witnesses and have it notarized.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, you will have to get legal services in order to have your rights, AND the birthfathers rights terminated.  (Voluntarily, hopefully, if the birthfather will sign.  If not , it will be fairly complex and requires more specific and expert skills of an attorney.)  Make sure you get ALL the visitation agreement in writing!  It seems all peachy keen now, but I have seen private arrangements go sour after time (some).  With no agency or lawyer to serve as intermediary over the years, you want to get everything down and signed now.  You never know what changes may occur.  You will need to see an attorney!  But maybe you can go through "Legal Aide" in your city, and see if they do adoptions/terminations.  Just don't fudge on the birthfather -- this is where most adoptions unravel if they do.  Make sure you are 100% truthful about him -- for the BABY'S sake.  Good luck.

Answer 9

awwww that is so sweet, try goggleing adoption papers maybe you can both sign them and have it notarized good luck

Answer 10

You will have to make contact with some legal authority.  Contact  your local Legal services if you cannot afford an attorney.....someone WILL legally have to finalize the adoption, and there will be some bills, but you may find and agency that will help you out in the interest of the child.

Answer 11

go to court house human service or child suport ask them where u need to go to get paper work get papers for signing parental rights over and adoption papers .       any questions [e-mail]

Answer 12

Call the licensed adoption agencies in your community.  They may be state, county, private, or religious.  Ask them about their fees.  Describe your situation.  Many charge adoptive families on a sliding scale based on their income.  You should be able to find one that can make the arrangements for you at a reasonable cost.