My friend wants to go vegetarian, but her mother wants her to wait

Question

till shes a little older so she said she's going to do it behind her moms back. What do I Do? should i tell her mom? Please Help! her mom just had a baby 2 weeks ago.

Answer 1

sounds to me like your friend should talk to her mother. Her mom's probably just feeling stressed out by the new baby and doesn't want anymore large changes. Your friend should probably just explain that she really feels strongly about being vegetarian and that she is going to stop eating meat now, not later.

Answer 2

What the h**l do you have against vegetarians?! I've been a vegetarian since i was 3 or 4, and I've been a vegan for about 15 minutes. (Oh, shut up. XD) Don't tell her Mom, let your friend find her way herself.

Answer 3

first tell your friend to make sure she is equipped with the facts.  Make sure she knows why she is doing it, that she has a legitimate reason for doing it.  THEN tell her mom.  When her mom starts the battle, your friend can pull out her arsenal of weapons, and say that if she starts now, it is no different than starting later, it's actually better.  

Answer 4

I think so much of it has to do with family culture.  I live in Southern California and being a vegetarian as a kid is completely normal here. One of mine is.  But I certainly wouldn't go to her mom.  I'm a mom and I doubt her mom is going to freak out just because her child won't eat meat.  She'll find other sources of protein for her, like nuts or soy.  If you stick your nose in your friend's biz, you could end up losing that friend.  Remember the old saying: blood is thicker than water.  You could start a family fight if you insert yourself into this and when all is said and done, the fight will end and she may make up with her mom and not with you.  I'd stay out of it.  Your friend will be fine.  Maybe you could be supportive of your friend's decision by offering her veggie alrernatives when she visits you.

Answer 5

You don't say how old she is. Young people under 18 or so are wise not to restrict their diets.

Sometimes mothers do know best!

Answer 6

Seriously, how long can she hide it? Besides what's wrong with not eating meat. I've been a vegetarian for 12 years and never looked back. I'm the healthiest person I know.

Answer 7

It will be hard for her to keep it "behind" her mother's back. I'm assuming she doesn't buy the food in the house and she doesn't cook her own meals. He mom will most likely find out.

Answer 8

That's a family affair and it's best to keep out of it.

If it was me, I would tell my friend to be honest with her mother but that's it.

Answer 9

I think she should tell her mom. Tell her to go to peta.com it shows what they do to animals. Which is wrong! If her mom still says no being a Vegan is much heathier but tell her to got to preta.com and that will tell her and her mom what she should do or not! :)

Answer 10

Perhaps your friend and her mom can come to some sort of compromise where the friend works toward a vegetarian diet over a period of a few months or so.  Or your friend should get some cookbooks and offer to help cook for vegetarian meals.  This will 1) show that she's read up on being vegetarian and can provide for herself and 2) give her mom some much-needed rest after having a new baby.

Even if she does much of the prep work and mixing, and her mom puts the food in the oven or something, it'll be a great help, I'm sure.

There are books out there geared toward teenagers and young people, and your friend should find some of those.  www.vegweb.com also has some simple recipes.

But I agree if she's going to be veg, she shouldn't lie to her mom.  She needs to present her mom with the facts that teens can be healthy as vegetarians.

Answer 11

it is your friends choice what she wants to eat