My friend was sexually molested by her grandfather and her family doesn't believe her.?

Question

This happened almost 17 years ago when she was about 5 or 6. It still makes her cry when she talks about it. How can I help her? (Even if it's just in a small way)

Answer 1

Just be there for her.  The dammage has been done.  But she has to accept the fact that it wasn't her fault; she has nothing to be ashamed of, and her best chance at leading a normal life is to look ahead, not dwell in the past.

Answer 2

go to the psychological hospital..

Answer 3

She definitely needs to seek professional help!

It depends on how far she wants to take it & the possibility of being ostracised by her family.

Also she will need to take into consideration the possibility of him abusing other children & whether she is willing to let it happen or plant a seed in people’s minds, so that they keep their children away from this monster;  assuming he is alive (old men abuse small children too).

Perhaps to make herself stronger she needs to forge ahead as an advocate for the rights of people who have been molested, she is a survivor and knows firsthand the weight of living with this secret.

Other than this plenty of affirmations, letting her know the she is amazing, strong, worthy, capable & powerful.

Good luck & my heart goes out.

Answer 4

Help her ger professional help!!

Answer 5

At this point there is nothing she can do, even if she tells people. It's the same situation with my friend and she never told anyone at the time, now it's too late to and she just has to deal with it. The only thing you can do is be there for her and tell her that it wasn't her fault and she has to get over it and not let it rule her life and interject in everything she will eventually want to do in the world. Be there for her, thats something that will never go away but she will learn to cope with it.  

Answer 6

Just be there for her. The dammage has been done. But she has to accept the fact that it wasn't her fault; she has nothing to be ashamed of, and her best chance at leading a normal life is to look ahead, not dwell in the past

HELP HER 2 FORGET THAT INCIDENT

Answer 7

well I believe that there is nothing impossible for God. You should go to a church with her so they can pray for her. God can heal her heart and take care of her suffering. And about her family well Sooner or later darkness turns to light. So God will handle the situation.

Answer 8

helps to talk about it and she needs to see proffesional for help too

Answer 9

These things should be forgotten.

It does no good.

Life is full of surprises and pains.

We have to live for the day, by forgetting yesterday and without thinking about tomorrow.

We loose peace of mind, if we do not forge the past.

Answer 10

==Pray for her.

==Encourage her to write a journal to express all her emotions. At least she doesn't have to worry about being judged or called a liar.

==Let her know that you are there and that if she needs to talk --you'll be there always.

==Try to encourage her to seek professional help that way her family will see how truly serious she is. If they won't believe her then at least, she'll have heal on her own and with help from great friends like you.

== Make her see that being the victim doesn't make her less of a person and that she is a strong person who will overcome this. Give her POSITIVE outlooks that way it'll overshadow the shame she might feel over herself.

good luck!

Answer 11

I agree with Harley.

I would add that maybe a professional help would make a difference in her life.

Hope she will be fine.

Answer 12

Poor baby. Please tell her to go to an adult she trusts outside the family. A teacher, polie officer, aunt, uncle, your mum maybe, a counsellor, a doctor or anyone like that. It might make her feel better if you go with her.

Please PLEASE keep reassuring her, its not her fault and it can be heart breaking when her family doesn't believe her. She's lucky to have a supportive friend like you. Do you think she'll be comfortable talking to your mum?

good luck <33