My friends are acting jealous please help?

Question

I have a boyfriend now and he is my first and I'm very happy about it but my friends don't like it. They claim it's nothing personal against him but that I'm always putting them off for him and when I am around them he's all I talk about, I'll admit that's true sometimes but they are kind of exaggerating. i don't understand why can't they just be happy for me?

Answer 1

Um...I hate to tell you this, but you're  probably acting just like they said. This has happened to me before, and it happens all the time. People get a new boy/girlfriend and completely dump their friends for him. They don't even have too, they just do. Unless you don't care about your friends, listen to what they say. They wouldn't tell you that if it weren't true. Make a concerted effort to at least hang with them once a week, and not talk about your boyfriend to much. OR YOU WILL LOSE YOUR FRIENDS BEFORE YOU KNOW IT. You might still think you're friends, but how much of a friend is someone that you don't see or talk to? It's not that they don't want you to be happy...they also want you to be their friend!

Answer 2

You should always make time for your girlfriends.  Tell them a little something about your boyfriend, but then go back into girlfriend mode while you're hanging with your friends.  I don't thing they're jealous, but sometimes it does get old when a friend keeps talking about their boyfriend, instead of the subjects you used to talk about before you had a boyfriend.

Answer 3

Make time for both of them. It's wonderful that you've gotten a boyfriend, but if he's your first he likely won't be your last. Think of it long term, if you guys break up who will you turn to? If you break up with him, won't you feel alittle foolish for blowing off the people who will be there for you no matter what? If they are your best friends, they'll be there for you no matter what, and they probably expect the same from you. They're probably feeling betrayed. They've been your friends for so long, and you've built memories, and now it's like they don't exist. Sometimes it's like losing a brother or sister.

I did the same thing. When I was 14, I fell in love with a guy I dated for 2 years, but I was too younge to make love work just yet. I was deeply in love, and it still didn't work out, and in the end I didn't have anyone. I made him my life, so it was like dying when I lost him. No one to talk to because I held him above everyone else.

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel. The thing is your friend's are upset, because maybe they don't have boyfriend's themselves and they feel like they are loosing you, talk to them about it,tell them you don't understand why they are being like this, also it may help talking to your boyfriend about it.

hope this helps.

+*+*emily*+*+