My friends are driving me crazy.?

Question

okay i have four best friends. lets call them A B C and D

first of all, A is really weight conscious even though she's got nothing really to worry about. recently she's started making herself throw up. i know this sounds horrible and it is a medical condition, i have suspicions that she's doing it for attention, so everyone says: 'oh A your so skinny you don't need to worry about anything.' me and my friend B ( us three are a bit closer) are really worried because you can do some serious damage to your health doing that. also her parents put her under a lot of pressure to achieve grades that are just impossible for her. its making her life a misery and im sure this could be a cause of the throwing up too.

my friend B is so quiet and sensitive and i'm so sure somethings going on in her homelife because she hardly ever invites any of us home or talks about home. everyone else is so wrapped up in their lives that they cant see this.

my friend D's friend keeps making fun of C and it's really getting to her. she calls her names, leaves her out in class and just generally tries to make everyone hate her. C is really sweet and hasnt told anyone else because they all really like D's friend and she think they'll all hate her too if she says anything.

and somethings up with D. she tells us her dad lives at home but we've just recently found out that her parents are divorced. her aunt and her dad came to pick her up from my place but D got all mixed up and said it was her mum's sister. why would her dad be with her mum's sister if her parents are divorced. i think its his girlfriend. a few days later she kept crying at school and whenever we asked her what was wrong she was really mad at us.

worst of all its my birthday soon and i need to take six friends. if i take D's friend the whole thing will be awful for C but if i dont im a bit afraid of what D's friend will think.

i just kinda feel like im the one who gets dumped on. we should tell eachother more i know. i just need to know how to sort my friends out.

Answer 1

I understand how hard it is for you. I've been having problems of my own too , ones about friends. Fitting in as the new student.. and ALWAYS a new student. I wonder who my real friends are. Anyways, it seems like you should just really go to A , look her in the eyes , and tell her that she's worrying everyone. And ask her why she is doing it. Sometimes , people like attention. And everyone does. Its not a problem or anything. Everyone is like that. Maybe she just feels like she should make herself throw up for a reason. Or that she's too depressed and tries thinking of something else. She uses her weight to try and distract her from the real problem which is her parents.. try to talk to her and tell her she should talk it out with her parents.

as to B , just try and talk to her about it too.. if she wont say it , dont force her too , just wait and soon she will be ready to tell you. Tell her that you love her and that you care about her. She needs love.

Tell D that she should cut out the teasing about C , if she wont stop , then tell her its not going to work that way. And she cant treat C like c**p. She'll probably come around soon. D's obviously.. dreaming of a perfect life. She wants one that some people have. And try to cover up her REAL life by saying things that arent true. Talk to her too. All of this really needs the quality of true friendship. Only then , no one will dump it all on you.