My friends dislikes him?

Question

First of all I am mixed with black & white and was raised in very nice neighborhood when I was younger. The schools I went to didn't have that many black kids so I made friends with alot of white people. Well i'm 22 now and I still talk to 5 of my friends from school. I've never dated anyone black so I wanted to give it a chance and I met this great black guy that I love very much. I met him 8 months ago and all of my friends dislike him just because he's black. They tell me that he's no good and that he's going to drag me down with him etc. They also say stuff like i'm going to end up selling drugs or locked up while dealing with my boyfriend. My friends is always starting arguments with him just to try to break us up. Just today they told me that they don't like people like him and I got very offended and told them that they must don't like me either. Now I feel as if i have to leave my boyfriend to save my friendships and this hurts. When I dated a white guy they didn't have a problem with it. i'm really lost for words and don't know what to do. What should I do or how should I handle this?

Answer 1

well its there choice who u date.  and they know that.....they shouldnt be predjuijust (sp?)  Stick with the man you love and dont let your friends get in the wayy of that

Answer 2

Tell them it is none of their business. If they were your true friends they wouldn't care or at least understnad you really care for him. They are the ones bringing you down.  

Answer 3

I am really concerned if these people are truly your friends than they would accept any person that you date. I mean you mentioned that you are happy with your bf. You are happy your friends should be happy. They cannot tell you who to date. Its up to you if you want to leave your bf for your friends.

Answer 4

Good for you for finding someone with whom you are happy.  The advice I would give to you is to stand up to your friends, and tell them that either they are OK with your guy, or the friendship is over.

Sadly, they seem to be racist, which is somewhat surprising, because they have totally accepted that you are g*y.  Generally, people are more uncomfortable with sexual orientation than inter-racial dating.

One of the things I have learned in this life is that people treat you how you let them!  I would meet with my friends, without my boyfriend being present, and lay it out for them..I'd tell them that you are with this guy, you love him, and they can accept him in your life and treat him with respect, or else they are out of your life.

With friends who are racist, mean-spirited and start arguments in an attempt to break you up, who needs enemies?

Answer 5

maybe your friends are jealous of you and him and if they were your true friends they would support your decision and consider your feelings for him stay with your man and eventually if they really love yu and care for you they'll back down