My friends husband hit her? ?

Question

He has hit her before. One time he pushed her into a window and the window broke. He hit her again and she called the police, he's now in jail. His parents said that she should not have called the police because now he will probably never be able to get a job in the field he wants. Do you think that calling the police was a good idea or do you think she went too far?

Answer 1

I think HE went too far, not her.  Good on her for standing up for herself and not taking the abuse.  

Sounds like his parents never taught him about "consequences for your actions"

Answer 2

His parents are concerned because he won't get a job in his field.  Hmmm--talk about f***ed up priorities.  He's in jail because he committed assault.  She did the right thing, and she should take the next logical step--divorce his a** and let his family worry about his career prospects.

Answer 3

WELL TOO BAD they should have raised him to be a better man! TELL HER THAT THEY NEED counseling or a divorce. One or the other. I've been with an abusive person and it stopped, but too bad for the poor baby that can't get a job in a field he wants, tell her to tell them that they should not have raised such a disrespectful lowlife.

Answer 4

Chicka, OMG please realize how serious what he does to her is.  She did the right thing and the most important thing that anyone in that situation should do!!! If he and his PARENTS are so concerned about what kind of job he'll be able to get with a police record, HE should have thought about that BEFORE he put his hands on her.  Take a look on the internet to see how many cases of domestic violence end up with death.  Your friend should be VERY proud of herself!!!  She did what a lot of victims don't have the courage or strength to do.  As for his parents...they are so selfish for what they are saying...he could have seriously hurt her and all they care about is his career?  As a matter of fact he's already hurt her...phsycologically.  I'm glad that she has a friend like you to lean on.  Be there for her!!!  Who knows maybe his new cell mate, or shall I say BF, will give him a taste of his own medicine...they say what goes around comes around!

Answer 5

My sister's husband is a very abusive person. For 11 years we have dealt with alot between the two. She has had a gun shot at her, she has been hit with a tree limb in the ribs, he has smashed her head into the floor (concrete), and he has bashed her head into a stove.

Everytime he does she calls the cops, they arrest him and she never goes through with pressing the charges. You would think after a while she would learn, but she doesnt. It has actually gotten so bad that I have went to blows with him and he is twice my size.

The reason that he still does this is because he knows that he can get away with it. The sad thing is, her kids have seen it all.

I believe that your friend has done the right thing. Who cares what kind of job he gets afterwards. The important thing is that your friend will go on to live. So many times men like this take that one last punch that can actually kill their wife/gf. Tell her to keep strong in her decision and to move on. There is life after this and it is far better than what she has already been through. I will be praying for her. In the meantime make sure you reassure your friend and give her the strength to walk away.

I have tried to do this with my sister. I have went as far as to tell her that I will be through with her and I will end taking her kids. I'm scared every time I get a phone call in the middle of the night. I am afraid that it will be someone telling me that they have found her dead.  

Answer 6

good idea......he should have thought about the job he wants before he hit her....