My friends keep coming to me and sharing their problems and I don't know how to react?

Question

I don't mind at all that they are seeking my advice, but I feel so bad I keep giving them no or bad suggestions. I don't know what to say! I keep placing myself in their shoes but I usually come up with nothing and ended up nodding and them only my embracement.

Answer 1

I know your problem. one of my friends does the same with me. Go with it tell them wat they think is right. then that will make life a lot eaiser to handle with your friend.

Answer 2

just honestly tell them you don't know what to do about their problem.

their not gonna be pissed off with U.

Answer 3

hi there :) I know exactly how you feel because this has happened to me too! When my friends start loading all their troubles onto me I feel so helpless :( But one thing that i realized was that they come to you for help because your friends trust you heaps! They admire you and look up to you...its great to find friends like that :D

I know most of the time its really hard putting yourself in their situation and unless you've been through the same thing you really can't just say 'it's going to be all right' ....because there are times when it just won't get better....

The best thing that you could do is just be there for them when they need it. Sometimes when you can't find the right words, a loving gesture like a hug could just do the trick. When going through hard times, a lot of people just want people to care about them! Do small things from the heart like giving them a gift, baking a cake for them, writing them a nice letter or maybe organizing a small party with close friends just to show how much you care :)

And sometimes admitting that you're not sure what to do can help, you could say something like... 'hey i don't really know what to say but i'll always be here for you...and if you need any hugs!'

These suggestions are all from experience and for me they have worked, I guess the most important thing you can do for your friends is just show that you love and care for them heaps :)

I wish you all the best!

Answer 4

Sometimes just listening and appreciating the difficulty the person is in can help alot.  Just say something like, "that is really tough" or "whoa, you must be really struggling with that issue"

Answer 5

I think both the first two answer's are right: If you don't know, say so; if you have an idea suggest it - if you want let them know that your suggestion is just that and that you might have misunderstood something which means it is not the best way to go.

You might also find that some people don't really want answers. All they want is a sympathetic ear and you obviously have a sympathetic look about you - that's not a bad thing!

Good luck