My friends make plans behind my back!?

Question

And its not like im the person to give up on them because there is no substantial reason. i mean we didnt fight and always a rational exlpanation comes up, or they ll try to get the whole matter into joking to lift the attention.... Anyhow i know sth's wrong but i dont have enough on my hands to start complaining. Additionally they seem to have more fun without me but there is not a particular thing i do to make matters worse you know? just by being there, a different atmosphere arises.... i dont know... Certainly i dont want to hang with people that dont like me and certainly i dont want to cause anybody harm...:) but should i stay friendless? Especially there is one friend of mine that steals the attention in a way that everybody would delightfully make plans with him and when he is unavailable, suddenly everybody is... i dont know what to do...what i do know is that there are many idiots out there that dress but their acts wit logic but down deep inside they are little kids being selfish and petty! i know its sth like that... i just cannot prove it and it pisses me badly that i cannot make plans without everybody's criticism and nots and donts and ****!

Answer 1

Start becoming exactly like them. buy the same clothes as them, adopt the same laugh as them, and start going to their parents houses for dinner.... they will for sure like you the. Or you can always dress up in a clown soon and perform magic tricks, everyone enjoys a good magician in their posse.

Answer 2

It may be that since you may have a negative outlook on things, it makes it difficult for your friends to be around you. People want to be surrounded by happiness, have a good time. When there is one person in the group who is unhappy for whatever reason, it brings everyone else down. That said, these people are supposed to be your friends. If you have specific depression issues that they are aware of, they need to be a little more compassionate. By no means am I saying you should be friendless, but there is a difference between a true friend and an aquaintance. There needs to be some give and take. Dont expect to be the center of attention when you know you have a depression issue.  

Answer 3

You should confront your friends about this problem.  I know it may seem like the last thing that you want to do, but it needs to be done.  Don't confront them in a whining tone, but be very cool with it.  

Answer 4

There are other ways to look at your situation. Try to put aside your feelings and look at the situation objectively. Your friends may be leaving you out maliciously, or they may not ask you to do something because whatever they did was spur of the moment. Maybe they are not the best friends you could have, or maybe what has happened to you has happened to everyone. Even the really fun, cool people get left out sometimes. It just happens that way, to everyone at some point. The trick is to not take it personally. Blame it on some other reason. Continue to be yourself but lower your expectations a bit. People NEVER consistently act the way we want them to. Expecting our friends to behave this way or that sets us up for disappointment, hurt feelings, and questioning our own worth.