My friends on drugs and keeps offering me them, i wanna stay her friend, but shes not the same anymore?

Question

her name is adele*

Answer 1

When you were friends in middle school you shared pretty much the same interests and had a lot in common.

This lad in high school has led her astray and she obviously feels that based on her friendship with you in the past you will have the same interests as her in taking drugs and getting drunk etc.

Make it abundantly clear to her that whilst you think a great deal of her as person you have no intention of going down the road she has taken and give her very good reasons for refusing to do so.

In this way you may make her think about the harm she is doing to herself without you overtly trying to make her change her ways.  To this extent you are supporting her and acting as a real true friend would.

You cannot change her - she can only change herself.



Tell her that you will be quite happy to engage in the same activities as you used to and that you will always be there for her should she ever need you.

By doing this you will still be a friend to her but whether she accepts it or not is entirely down to her.

Answer 2

theres two answers one of them is that it will never work if its meth then its going to be a long hard road to help this person so save yourself and get out now the second answer is that this person can be helped but are you strong enough to see it through so basicly both answers are the same you have to look deep inside yourself and ask what kind of friend are you and how much love do you have in you but be warned that it might not be enough no matter what take it from an ex meth user i used for twenty two years and ive been clean for a month but it was just my time i have no desire for it any more but i hurt and destroyed alot of good hearted people who tried tohelp me strong people but i wasnt ready it wasnt my time

Answer 3

you cant change someone, you can only be there for them. But what you can do is stay strong about refusing them, wait for her to realise what she is doing will not end up very happily ever after. Be there for her when that happens, she will need you, but unless your going to tie her hands together and cuff link her to you, you wont be able to stop her takeing them. Telling her or advising her to stop is tricky if not impossible either because if she doesnt want to hear it, she just wont listen- it goes in one ear and out the other, or she will just think you dont understand/are jelouse/are boaring and will again, not do anything you suggest.

The best thing you can do- and really, all that you can do, is stay true to your principals, let her know your there to listen if she wants to talk, and wait for her to come tumbling down- she will really need you then.

Answer 4

idk its better to talk to an adult or a counseler but dont mention the persons name to anyone.

Answer 5

this is what ive learned

if you try to help a friend

and she doesnt want it ..

she doesnt care about you.

if you say something to your friend she'll most likely say youre just trying to tel her what to do.

friends usually dont last forever

try to get her help somewhere else through couseling

but think first about getting her better

and last about staying her friend

because drugs are horrible and she needs help

so her needs need t come before yours here

and hopefully things work out for everyone

Answer 6

i think that u SHOULDN'T be he her friend anymore...cuz she'll probably drag u down with her

Answer 7

i think u need to talk to her/him to  try to back him/her off of drug n show him/her that life can be good with out drugs

Answer 8

The truth is you probably can't,,as you grow up you and friends you have will reach points in the road where you'll go one way and they go the other.

When you first get into drugs it's not just the drugs but the scene,people get into it big and it's her boyfriend into it too so it's doubtful she'll change her ways for a while to come.

If you don't go down the same route then you'll probably drift apart over the next while,it's sad but inevitible,