My frineds ? please help?

Question

my friend always never keeps her promises and every time i tell somethign to her boyfrined thats tru she always lies about it

what do i do?

Answer 1

If she's really that dishonest and you can't trust her to keep your secrets then maybe she's not that good of a friend. Maybe you two shouldn't be friends. Relationships of any kind are built on trust. Think about whether or not it's worth being her friend.

Answer 2

Tbh, I wouldn't be friends with someone like that,

First think, do I wanna be friends with someone like that? Do I need to go through the challenges of trying to fix it?

If so, put hints into conversations about how much people look down on liars and people who break promises. Hopefully she will get the hint,

otherwize, you should talk to her privately. Stay calm, and if she gets upset tell her you still love her, yet some things are not healthy for the relationship, (or yourselves). If things get heated, just talk to her later.

I'm sure you can bring up examples, and say that it hurt you etc.

Then, hopefully she will make a concious effort to change things,

otherwize, do you need a friend like that?

Answer 3

Limit what you say to her. Dont tell her anything that you wouldnt want repeated.

Answer 4

Well if she dosn't keep her promises then maybe she isn't a good and true friend. It isn't your place to tell her boyfriend things, that is her job. If she wan'ts to deny it then she digs her own grave as a lier.

Answer 5

I've tried reading what the others had to say about your friend.

Look here, it's true that she's dishonest, and true that she isn't being very much of a good friend. But don't give up on her, You and her boyfriend should team up and try to help her be better.

It's not always about her being a good friend to you. But also you being a good friend to her.

If you want her to be a good friend, be that to her too.

Try getting the scoop on her, and find out what exactly is the truth about what is going on with her life. The next time you accuse her of something, you are ready with plenty of evidence.

But always be sure to have concrete and true evidence. And make sure that your test is to help her, not to destroy her dignity.

But take the chance to disprove her. And when you do, reassure her that you don't want her to be dishonest.

Don't shout at her about it or anything. But just be truthful about what you are feeling about your friendship. Tell her that dishonesty can break your friendship apart.

Don't give up on her. And when she gives up on herself, try to find someone, like a parent, or a trusted adult, to help you. If you share a religion, try the religious administrator. If not, try doing things you like together, and then while doing them, talk more.

Answer 6

Friends are only friends if they can keep secrets. Shes not a true friend.