My g,daughter tells me things she should tell her mom?

Question

but she says her mom don.t understand like i do.should i tell her mom or just listen

Answer 1

Just listen.

Answer 2

Why would you want to misplace the trust you're g.daughter has in you.She don't have it with her mother she needs it with someone feel lucky you're g.daughter wants to confide in you.My girls and i were close we knew everything but if they didn't want to talk to me i would want them to talk to there grandma next.Don't tell her mom for that will lead to her not trusting you and you don't want to lose that.  

Answer 3

sometimes you just need someone to talk to.

at least she tells you and does not leave things bottled up inside.

she is so blessed to have someone she can talk to.

i hope you know that.

you must be a true blessing to her.

i just wanted to say thank you for being a grandma who is in their grandchildren's lives.

you do make a difference.   : )

God bless!

Answer 4

You should never tell her mother the discussion both of you have directly. Filter them and the main points which are neccessary to be brought in her knowledge shall be told indirectly like - "I think so ..." or "It may be so..." or "you shall be vigilent for that..." etc. etc. In this way you shall, not break your g'daughters's heart and her mother too will be informed.

Answer 5

no matter if you are her grandmother or godmother, she trusts you with the information she is telling you. keep it to yourself unless you absolutely feel you need to tell her mother. your gdaughter feels close to you which is great, so try not to break that bond by telling her mother the information.

Answer 6

It is sometimes easier to talk to a grandparent than a parent , because they know you will not criticize , judge , or ground them . If I were you I would listen and then tell her that she really should discuss that with her mom . If she insists that she can not , then listen and when you have a chance and if it is really really serious , then you tell her mom and let the mom know that you had heard about this from her daughter and that you had said you would not tell . Alert the mom to that fact so she can handle it in a delicate way so as not for the daughter to lose faith in them all and clam up . Good luck and God bless

Answer 7

Just listen for now, but if she tells you serious things, her mother should know, and you should definitely tell her mother.  

Answer 8

you should listen to her embrace the trust she has in you but if you judge it is something her mom should intervene in then tell her , if its about other things its a good relationship, most teens can't communicate with their moms, its normal

Answer 9

I think that its fair to say that you, being a senior, have had more experience with life and have raised kids before. I think you probably already know the answer to this question. Tell your daughter what's going on with her daughter.

Answer 10

Just listen she trust you and needs you to listen, if you tell her mom you will lose her trust,if it is something her mom really should know then talk to your granddaughter and Telll her you will go with her if she want you to but if not leave it alone, trust needs to say with you  

Answer 11

this sounds like if you were divorced...her mom..and you?aren't you her father I mean both of you?

Look I'm going to tell you something...what willl you do when she get's 15 or little bit more and starts dating a young boy..NO!don't deny it it's going to happens someday...well would you rather still listen what she has to tell you now...so then when she may need your advice as a man ,when she tells you how he treats her, what he ask her to do, bla bla...you can still keep the chance to advice her...now  would you stop your talks with your daughter now  and lose the posibility of being there for her in that future to come?when we say children have parents , we are talking a bout a father and a mother...hopefully this is your case,think about it.

Answer 12

listen, dont betray her and tell her mother shell never tell you anything again and she'll bottle things up inside because she wont trust any1 to tell

Answer 13

It's good that she has an adult to come to with her problems.  If these are normal growing up concerns then I think you're fine keeping her confidences private.  But if these are things that she really needs parental guidance and help to deal with then it's your responsibility to make sure her mom knows either by talking to her mom with her or by letting your daughter know on your own.

Answer 14

i think you should just listen at least then she'll still confide in you and not her fiends or people that will mis-guide her, or even bottle things up which aren't healhty either.

telling her mum will just break her trust with you.

i confided in my grandmum when i was young she just to advise me or just listen doesn't mean i had to take her advice but it was helpful to have a sounding board that didn't judge me.

no 10yrs on i tell my mother everything.

unless is it something really bad that her mother should know safety pregnancy etc than try and coax not bully her in2 telling her mother herself. maybe having a word with the mother that if the daughter ever comes to her with something that she shouldn't totally freak out otherwise she will never confide in her again

godd luck let us know how things go

also how old is she and is the stuff really bad

Answer 15

I think you should just listen.  I don't know what exactly she talks to you about, but aren't you happy she is talking to someone about it?  If you tell her mum she will never trust you again.