My g*y friend came out but didn't tell me?

Question

My best friend who is a guy and I am a girl came out as g*y. I had always expected it and everyone has. But he has just said he was bi for the last 3-4 months. Today he decided to tell another close guy friend that he is actually g*y, but not to tell me because it's awkward (because the g*y guy and I have done things together). We have been friends since we were 11 and I thought I deserved the right to know. I know I shouldn't be getting uptight, but my friend he told mentioned maybe i should just quietly talk to him about it, because he needs people to talk to. Any ideas on what I could say.. with out it being completely awkward and not offending him. Should I just leave it? I just don't want to go around knowing I know and him not knowing. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Maybe the other guy sort of "found out"? That's what happened with me and my step dad, he kinda just asked one day "hey do you dig chicks?" and I just replied "yeah..."

My sister was pissed that I didn't tell her first.

I think you should just leave it, I'm sure he trusted you and you wont really gain anything on telling him. He must have had a reason for it!

Answer 2

Don't be angry, i know you might feel a bit betrayed, like i have some really close female friends but ive only told two of my guy friends because partly wanted to know if they might feel the same way ;) but also because i think people of the same s*x have  a different type of friendship if that makes sense...so even though u might be really close to him, its still a different type of friendship than two guys.

I think you have to be able to speak teen to understand my answer lol

Answer 3

I think he didnt want to tell you because he thought if you knew you might reject him as a friend  

Answer 4

errrm go and talk to him just tell him how your feeling he might not have thought of it like that

Answer 5

Check your attitude. "I thought I deserved the right to know..." won't win you any points with anybody. It's egocentric and selfish.

Your friend is dealing with a very sensitive and complicated issue and here you are trying to make it all about you. He may be just assuming that word will get around to you so he doesn't HAVE to tell you (that's a bad assumption on his part) or maybe he's figuring you're astute enough to have figured this all out before him (a lot of my friends did) i.e.: why tell you something you already know?

Until he gets a little more comfortable with his status, asking him his g*y life is might meet with some surprise and resentment so you might just want to wait until he comes to you to tell you. Patience here is the rule of the day. You COULD casually ask, "So ,what's up? You haven't been quite yourself lately. So-and-so told me you had some news. What's that all about?" His answer will tell you if he's ready to let you know or not.

Answer 6

Don't be mad at him. He just wants to be accepted and treated normally. Just don't change you're attitude when you're around him bc that would just make him feel sorry he told anyone.

Like how i told one of my friends i was bi and i didnt want anyone knowing but she screams it on the street. And she acts different around me. Im so sorry i tell people things now.